Programmer, investor and entrepreneur James Altusher, who has already launched several startups, posted on TechCrunch a very simple, useful and honest instruction for those who want to radically change their field of activity, but do not know where to start. Below is a translation of this article.

Here are the things: I was at zero several times, came back to life several times, did it over and over again. I started new careers. The people who knew me then do not know me now. Etc.

I started my career from scratch several times. Sometimes - because my interests changed. Sometimes - because all the bridges were burned without a trace, and sometimes because I desperately needed money. And sometimes - because I hated everyone in my previous job, or they hated me.

There are other ways to reinvent yourself, so take my words with a grain of salt. This is what worked in my case. I've seen this work for about a hundred other people. From interviews, from letters that have been written to me over the past 20 years. You can try - or not.

1. Change never ends

Every day you reinvent yourself. You are always on the move. But every day you decide exactly where you are going: forward or backward.

2. Start from scratch

All your past labels are just futility. Were you a doctor? An Ivy League alumnus? Owned millions? Did you have a family? Nobody cares. You have lost everything. You are zero. Don't try to say that you are big.

3. You need a mentor

Otherwise, you will go to the bottom. Someone needs to show you how to move and breathe. But don't worry about finding a mentor (see below).

4. Three types of mentors

Straight. Someone ahead of you, who will show you how he got there. What does "this" mean? Wait a minute. By the way, mentors don't look like Jackie Chan's character in The Karate Kid. Most mentors will hate you.

Indirect. Books. Films. You can get 90% of the instruction from books and other materials. 200-500 books equate to a good mentor. When people ask me, "What's a good book worth reading?" - I do not know what to answer them. There are 200-500 good books worth reading. I would turn to inspirational books. Whatever you believe, strengthen your beliefs with daily reading.

Anything can be a mentor. If you are nobody and want to re-create yourself, everything you look at can become a metaphor for your desires and goals. The tree you see, with its roots inaccessible to the eye and the groundwater that feeds it, is a programming metaphor when you tie the individual points together. And whatever you look at will be "connecting the dots."

5. Don't worry if you don't get carried away.

You take care of your health. Start with it. Take small steps. You don't need passion to succeed. Do your thing with love and success will be a natural symptom.

6. Time it will take to re-create yourself: five years

Here is a description of these five years.

First year: you flounder and read everything and just start doing something.

Year Two: You know who you need to talk to and maintain working relationships. You do something every day. You finally understand what the map of your own game of "Monopoly" looks like.

Year Three: You are good enough to start making money. But for now, perhaps not enough to make a living.

Year four: You are well-provided for.

Year Five: You are making a fortune.

Sometimes I got frustrated in the first four years. I asked myself, "Why hasn't this happened yet?" - hit the wall with his fist and smashed his arm. It's okay, just keep walking. Or stop and choose a new field for activity. It does not matter. Someday you will die, and then it will be really difficult to change.

7. If you do it too quickly or too slowly, then something is going wrong.

Google is a good example.

8. It's not about money

But money is a good yardstick. When people say, “It's not about money,” they need to be sure that they have some other unit of measurement. "How about just doing what you love?" There will be many days ahead when you will not like what you do. If you do it out of pure love, it will take much more than five years. Happiness is just a positive response from your brain. You will be unhappy some days. Your brain is only a tool; it does not define who you are.

9. When can you say, "I'm doing X"? When does X become your new profession?

10. When can I start practicing X?

Today. If you want to paint, buy canvas and paints today, start buying 500 books one at a time and paint pictures. If you want to write, do the following three things:

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If you want to start your own business, start coming up with a business idea. Re-creating yourself begins today. Every day.

11. When will I make money?

In a year, you will have invested 5,000-7,000 hours in this business. This is good enough for you to be in the top 200-300 in the world in any specialty. Getting into the top 200 almost always provides a livelihood. By the third year, you will have figured out how to make money. By the fourth, you will be able to increase your speed and provide for yourself. Some stop there.

12. By the fifth year, you will be in the top 30-50, so you can make a fortune

13. How can I tell if it's mine?

Any area in which you are able to read 500 books. Go to the bookstore and find her. If after three months you get bored, go to the bookstore again. Getting rid of illusions is normal, this is the meaning of defeat. Success is better than failure, but failure is the most important lesson. Very important: don't rush. For his interesting life you can change yourself many times. And fail many times. It's fun too. These attempts will turn your life into a storybook, not a textbook. Some people want their life to be a textbook. Mine is a book of stories, good or bad. Therefore, changes are happening every day.

14. The decisions you make today will be in your biography tomorrow.

Accept interesting solutions and you will have an interesting biography.

15. The decisions you make today will become part of your biology.

16. What if I like something exotic? Biblical Archeology or 11th Century Wars?

Repeat the steps above and by the fifth year you should be rich. We don't know how. There is no need to look for the end of the road when you are only taking the first steps.

17. What if my family wants me to become an accountant?

How many years of your life have you promised to give to your family? Ten? All life? Then wait for the next life. It's up to you to choose.

Choose freedom over family. Freedom, not prejudice. Freedom, not government. Freedom, not satisfaction of other people's needs. Then you will satisfy yours.

18. My mentor wants me to walk his path

This is fine. Master his path. Then do it your way. Sincerely.

Fortunately, no one is holding a gun to your head. Then you would have to comply with his demands until he lowers the gun.

19. My husband (wife) is worried: who will take care of our children?

The person who changes himself always finds free time... Part of changing yourself is finding moments and reshaping them the way you would like to use them.

20. What if my friends think I'm crazy?

Who are these friends?

21. What if I want to be an astronaut?

It is not changing yourself. This is a specific profession. If you like space, there are many professions. Richard Branson wanted to be an astronaut and created Virgin Galactic.

22. What if I enjoy drinking and hanging out with friends?

Read this post again in a year.

23. What if I'm busy? Cheating on my spouse or betraying my partner?

Read this post again in two or three years, when you are broke, out of work and everyone will turn their backs on you.

24. What if I can't do anything at all?

Read point 2 again.

25. And if I don't have a diploma or is it of no use?

Read point 2 again.

26. What if I need to focus on paying off my mortgage or other loan?

Read point 19 again.

27. Why do I feel like an outsider all the time?

Albert Einstein was an outsider. No one in authority would hire him. Everyone sometimes feels like an impostor. The greatest creativity comes from skepticism.

28. I can't read 500 books. Name one book you need to read for inspiration

Then you can give up right away.

29. What if I'm too sick to change myself?

The change will spur the production of nutrients in your body: serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin. Move forward, and you may not recover at all, but you will become healthier. Don't use health as an excuse.

Finally, rebuild your health first. Sleep more. Eat better. Go in for sports. These are the key steps to change.

30. What if my partner set me up and I'm still suing him?

Quit litigation and never think about him again. Half of the problem was in you.

31. What if they put me in jail?

Perfectly. Reread point 2. Read more books in prison.

32. And if I am a timid person?

Make weakness your strength. Introverts are better at listening and concentrating, and they are more sympathetic.

33. What if I can't wait five years?

If you plan to stay alive in five years, you can start today.

34. How to establish contacts?

Construct concentric circles. You should be in the middle. The next circle is friends and family. Then - online communities. Then - people whom you know from informal meetings and tea parties. Then there are conference participants and opinion leaders in their field. Then - mentors. Then there are customers and those who make money. Start working your way through these circles.

35. What if my ego starts getting in the way of what I am doing?

In six months or a year, you will return to point 2.

36. What if I am passionate about two things at once? And I can't choose?

Combine them and you will be the best in the world for this combination.

37. What if I am so passionate that I want to teach others what I am learning myself?

Read lectures on YouTube. Start with a one-person audience and see if it grows.

38. What if I want to make money in my sleep?

In Year 4, start outsourcing what you do.

39. How to find mentors and experts?

When you have accumulated enough knowledge (after 100-200 books), write 10 ideas for 20 different potential mentors.

None of them will answer you. Write 10 more ideas for 20 new mentors. Repeat this every week.

40. What if I can't come up with ideas?

Then practice it. The thinking muscles tend to atrophy. They need to be trained.

It will be difficult for me to reach my toes if I don't exercise every day. I have to do this exercise every day for some time before this position is easy for me. Don't expect good ideas from day one.

42. What if I do everything that you say, but still nothing seems to work?

It will work out. Just wait. Keep changing yourself every day.

Don't try to find the end of the road. You cannot see it in the fog. But you can see the next step, and you will realize that if you take it, you will eventually reach the end of the path.

43. What if I start to feel depressed?

Sit in silence for an hour a day. You need to get back to your core.

If this sounds silly to you, don't do it. Live on with your depression.

44. And if there is no time to sit in silence?

Then sit in silence for two hours a day. This is not meditation. You just have to sit.

45. What if I get scared?

Sleep 8-9 hours a day and never gossip. Sleep is the first secret to good health. Not the only one, but the first. Some people write to me that four hours of sleep is enough for them, or that in their country those who sleep a lot are considered lazy. These people will fail and die young.

When it comes to gossip, our brains are biologically programmed to have 150 friends. And when you chat with one of your friends, you can gossip about someone from the other 150. And if you don't have 150 friends, the brain will want to read gossip magazines until it thinks it has 150 friends.

Don't be as stupid as your brain.

46. ​​And if everything seems to me that I will never succeed?

Practice gratitude for 10 minutes a day. Don't suppress your fear. Notice your anger.

But also allow yourself to be grateful for what you have. Anger never inspires, but gratitude inspires. Gratitude is the bridge between your world and the parallel universe where all creative ideas live.

47. And if I constantly have to deal with some kind of personal squabbles?

Find other people to be with.

A person who changes himself will constantly meet people who are trying to suppress him. The brain is afraid of change - it can be unsafe. Biologically, the brain wants security for you, and change is a risk. So the brain will slip you people trying to stop you.

People dissatisfied with reality are often looking for answers to questions: how to change their lives for the better and where to start. If a person wants to become happy, first of all, one should find the cause of dissatisfaction and change his attitude towards life. Often the root of the problem lies in the person himself, in his negative perception of reality.

Why change your life for the better?

Many people do not like the insignificant moments of their boring life, so they strive to radically change it - to leave everything, leave somewhere, run away, make themselves plastic surgery... In no case should you do this. You don't need to go anywhere or subject yourself to a dangerous surgical operation with dubious results just because there is less money in the bank than others, your beloved or beloved does not like, and everything around seems so bleak.

It is necessary to appreciate what is and try to solve unimportant everyday problems on the spot. After all, a new life will present a person with more serious difficulties than those that he has at the moment, and not everyone will be able to cope with them. There are hundreds of thousands of examples of failures in life. Broken destinies, unfulfilled dreams, undermined health, life at the very bottom. Only a few, having abandoned everything and left somewhere, It is not for nothing that the people say that it is better to die in their native land than to seek happiness in a foreign land. You can leave everything and suddenly come only to your parents, and then if they love and wait for the return of their children.

If a person does not like something in life, you need to carefully analyze it and understand what is wrong with it. Problems with a husband or wife can be solved with the help of lawyers or advice from psychologists, lack of money - by looking for a new job. If a person doesn't like their appearance, they can simply update their wardrobe and do a new hairstyle.

If an individual lives in harmony with himself, but other people do not like something in him, it is necessary to exclude them from the number of his friends and not to react to inappropriate comments. The main thing is to love yourself and not listen to reproaches that destroy the world in which a person is comfortable, comfortable and pleasant to be.

Don't leave your comfort zone just because someone doesn't like it. All people have been trying to equip a house for years, but only a few manage to live a happy life at least in old age. You should not break, destroy coziness and comfort just because some person dreamed in a dream that it was impossible to live like that. On the contrary, it is possible and necessary to live this way.

It is advisable to agree with the demands of friends or relatives if they ask to get rid of bad habits, do not worry, do not exaggerate and enjoy life. If there are no visible problems and reasons for concern, then nothing should be changed to please others. If a person has a family with small problems, work with a small wages, but he is happy, which means that he is doing fine. The main thing is for the individual to be satisfied with himself and his life.

If a person does not know how to change his own, it is important for him to understand that it is not life that needs to be changed, but himself and his attitude to the world. It is advisable to start working on yourself with the transformation of the appearance, the inner world and the space around. You don't need to go anywhere, drop everything and grab onto a new business. First of all, it is recommended to resolve the existing problems, put things in order, only then you can dare to do more.

Psychologist's advice on how to change your life for the better:

1. Change your attitude towards life.

As a rule, a person does not like life itself, but some object or phenomenon. An unpleasant personality or disorder in the house taken separately cannot influence the attitude towards life. After all, it is more than family troubles or conflicts at work. Any problems are just minor misunderstandings against the backdrop of a huge ocean of interesting opportunities and joys that life is full of. It is necessary to look around, open your eyes wider and see how beautiful the world is.

1. Learn to control thoughts, emotions and actions.

It is impossible to enjoy life if all sorts of sad thoughts come to mind that poison a person's already bleak existence. It is necessary by an effort of will to slam the door in front of memories from the past, filled with resentment and vengeful thoughts. There is no point in harassing yourself with negativity, especially if you fail to take revenge on the offenders. It is necessary to live in the present and believe in a bright and happy future, and for this you need to think positively. By an effort of will, restrain the desire to shout at loved ones, utter hurtful words to employees or hit someone. Start every morning with a smile and a positive attitude.

1. Find the ideal you want to be like.

Dissatisfaction with one's appearance or position in society is based on the fact that a person differently imagines his happy life but cannot achieve it. In this case, it is recommended to choose for your ideal a person who has achieved success, try to act or look exactly like him. You need to turn on your imagination and imagine yourself as a successful, rich, intelligent person every day. An imaginary picture will change not only thoughts, but even human behavior. It is useful to constantly communicate with your ideal, if the person has the opportunity. So he will tune in to the wave of success, change the stereotypes of thinking, become the same as the person he wants to be like. Adopting the mentality of the ideal, you can radically change your life.

1. Work on yourself daily.

If a person wants to become happy, it is desirable for him to change not only hairstyle, makeup, clothes, but also to work on the inner world. Every day you need to read, for example, articles from the Internet on the psychology of self-development, novelties of world literature, news from all over the world. Each book is interesting in its own way, any plot captivates a person's consciousness, makes him mentally move in time and space to another world. Reading different literature, you can learn a lot of new and useful things. After all, a book is a treasury of knowledge. In any literature, there is always some helpful advice.

You can change your life for the better if you start learning foreign languages. English, German, French can be learned at any age. Learning foreign languages ​​perfectly trains the brain, relieves it of sad thoughts, introduces a person to a new culture, interesting traditions of another people. Perhaps, in the future, the acquired knowledge will be useful in some situation.

You can find yourself a new hobby. If a person likes paintings by artists, he can buy himself paints and try to paint on his own. Some people like to cook and eat. They not only collect recipes from all cookbooks and from the Internet, but they also blog or record videos of cooking their own meals.

You can start playing sports. It will strengthen not only the body, but also the nerves. Sports training will streamline life, bring many new joyful emotions. Any sport will improve appearance person. will strengthen willpower, change the well-being and mood of a person.

1. Get rid of negative character traits and bad habits.

You can't just stop being jealous, sarcastic or jealous. True, these and others negative traits character are manifested as a reaction to an unpleasant phenomenon or situation. However, it is recommended to redirect the negative to the positive. For example, instead of getting angry, you can shake your abs. If you want to swear, you can turn on the computer and write a detective story in which the offender dies a terrible death.

If you cannot transform negative traits into positive ones, you simply need to get rid of them. Getting rid of negative thoughts from your mind is not easy. However, it is recommended to try this method: put on a thin pharmacy gum on your wrist and as soon as jealousy or anger creeps into your soul, you need to pull the gum back and release it abruptly. A useless thought will be associated with pain. This will quickly transform negative thinking into positive thinking.

You will not be able to change your life for the better if you do not get rid of bad habits. After all, all of them - alcohol, smoking, drugs - harm human health. It is impossible to be happy and sick. Even if alcohol or smoking has not yet brought significant harm to health, they already interfere with a sober look at life, immerse a person in a world of sinister illusions by dulling the emotional perception of reality.

1. Find a lucrative job.

As a rule, people who are dissatisfied with life do not earn much. If you are not satisfied with a job that pays pennies, it is better to first find another, and then pay off the old one. On the Internet, newspapers, advertisements posted a large number of offers for people of all ages. You can carefully study the labor market, find a vacancy of interest, pass an interview and, after a positive result, leave your unloved job. True, one cannot go nowhere. Only unemployment and lack of money can be worse than a small wage.

You can start your own business. However, in the beginning it is recommended to thoroughly prepare. For example, read books on how to start a business, find advice from successful entrepreneurs on the Internet, and think about something of your own. Then you need to draw up a business plan for your business. This algorithm of actions will help the future entrepreneur to correctly understand the economic situation, weigh their strengths and take the first steps.

After reading the recommendations of a psychologist, you can begin to act. It is recommended that you keep a diary to record your personal dreams and deeds. In the evening, you need to draw up a detailed plan for the next day, and in the morning you need to act according to the instructions that were invented. This will make it easier to get things done and not overlook anything.

If the desire to document every action becomes a habit, it will be easier for a person to manage time and have time to do all the things. A love of order will gradually develop. Thoughts will start working only in a positive way, because negativity will lead to an error that will shake the model of life built by a person.

The advice of an experienced psychologist will help you change yourself and your life for the better. After all, it can be difficult for a person to figure out his own problems on his own, to part with a traumatic past and understand the causes of troubles. You can contact a practicing psychologist-hypnologist

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1. We determine what is important in our life.
2. We determine which of this important works by itself.
3. We support the operating in the non-withering mode.
4. Determining how to start the slack.
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At first glance, everything seems easy and simple, the main thing is to follow all these rules.

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1. The habit of devoting around the clock to work.
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2. The habit of remembering your past.
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3. The habit to please everyone.
   We should not love everyone we meet, and everyone around us should not love us.

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2. Tighten your abdominal muscles and take turns lifting your legs off the floor, lifting them up a few centimeters.
3. Do the exercise for a minute. Keep your back straight without bending at the lower back.

10 minutes a day - and your body can change beyond recognition in a month. This is just one of the exercises you need to do every day.

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How to talk to management
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How to talk to your significant other
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August - sharing good

When we help another person, we become a little happier. Take the time and help your friend with the move, move your grandmother across the road, feed the stray puppy. May August be your month of kindness. You yourself will notice how you will become happier thanks to such actions.

September - towards inspiration

Many people tend to complain about their existence. But it's better to think about how to change your life. There are hundreds of ways to change your life.

You can learn how to change your life in 7 days. Or you can choose a program for 21 days. And for someone, three months is not enough to change something in his life.

Change your life, don't listen to others. Instead, read the stories of people who broke the rules, raised their standard of living and made a dream come true. The desire to change their lives is part of success. Having given themselves the attitude "change their life", people change reality and understand how to change their life in better side... Those who gave the chance a chance to change themselves:

• Feel happy;
• For them, it is not a problem at 50 to change their lives in 4 weeks or in 21 days;
• Do not be afraid to change your lifelong dream;
• They charge relatives with positive emotions. This will help the power of the subconscious or information and how to change your life.

These are just some of the factors that indicate that it is imperative to change your life for the better. Every inhabitant of the globe can change the situation; in order to achieve the desired result, it just takes time to change your habits. To start changing yourself, you should tune in to the desired wave. And also decide how to change your attitude towards life and become a happy person. After all, everyone wants to have good business, overcome bad habits, overcome laziness and change the situation and the course of history.

Do not hope for an accident, do not be afraid to step out of your comfort zone, because meditation, a properly tuned brain can change the fate of young people, and life after 40 can also get better. Learning to change your life is easy, but it takes time and useful stories. Change your life, and you will understand that it is very easy to become happy, both for a man and a girl.

How to Think to Change Your Life for the Better

As already mentioned, everyone has the opportunity to change their lives. You can change your life in 3 months. But, many people think wrong. The power of the subconscious or how to change life is very important information, which must be mastered by those who want to become different. No amount of money, power and other material benefits will make a person happy.

The one who has not a penny behind his back can change his life with the power of thought . And everyone who has already come this way will confirm this. After all, life can really be transformed even in a month.

Where to start

• For a start, you should reconsider your reality. Surely, there are many positive moments in your life. Perhaps, under the veil of stress and anxiety, you have lost your joy? Sometimes meditation helps. In general, meditation helps in many ways.
• You can regularly listen to songs that have changed the lives of many people. It takes time to understand them.

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• You can change your outlook on life by perceiving only positive information. This will help you figure out how to put your thoughts in order.
• Start writing down the good events of the day. Believe me, there will be much more of them than you think. This is how it will be possible to understand how to change the attitude towards life.
• It is worth listening to the advice of psychologists on how to correctly perceive different events in order to strengthen the power of thought.
• It is worth communicating more often with people who will tell you how to modify your life for the best from your own experience.

• Also, write down all your big plans. In them, outline your thoughts on how to change your attitude towards life. Here you can take notes on the advice of psychologists, coaches and other people who have already been able to find ways to change their lives for the better.

• The main thing to remember is that you cannot completely change your life overnight. You need to come to this understanding, having previously passed the path in order to find yourself in this world and overcome the wrong perception of what is happening around.

You just need to believe that it is easy to change your life, just by starting to think differently.

How to achieve financial success

For work to change lives, you need to seriously consider the following factors:

• Are you in the right niche? You may need to change your lifestyle and occupation.
• Will the current job be able to bring the desired income, which means that it will change your life.
• Are you ready to donate your personal time completely so that development in this niche will help change your life.
• Get out of your comfort zone. Only this will help change life and give an impetus to career growth.

• You need to teach yourself to think positively not only at home, but to decide for yourself where to start good thinking within the walls of the office. For example, if there are people in your environment who do not like, then you can draw them in the image of some kind of wonderful fairytale hero... Place the drawing in the workplace, and then looking at a funny face, these people will not be so annoying.
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Of course, you can rely on fate, as many people do. And you can speed up the process and change your life with the power of thought. This takes time, and you should also put your thoughts in order and properly set up your brain to begin reincarnation.

How to start working on yourself

Working on yourself - this process is much more difficult than changing the life of another person. Of course, there are 100 ways to change your life, however, knowing them is not enough to bring about a major change. For knowledge to be effective, you need:

• Attend the training "Change your life", as well as "The power of the subconscious or how to change your life." Seminars will help to tune the brain for the coming changes. Women and men change their perception of the world radically after such events.

• You can listen to stories about how successful people today were able to reach heights and radically change their lives.
• Get out of your comfort zone in all areas of life. From the first day when your brain is ready to change, do something that you have never done before. There are a lot of ways how to radically change your existence, so everyone can choose their own.
• Read books that will give advice on how to tune your brain and become stronger in order to change your life once and for all and never look for the causes of injustice.

• Before you start thinking about your own mistakes, you need to decide on the question of how to find the strength in yourself to go through the path of reincarnation to the end in a person who is able to become happy, not hoping for an accident, but sculpting fate on your own. After all, one time out of a thousand, a life-changing event may occur.

If you have already decided how to change your life and have gained the strength to change what interferes with normal existence, start acting, do not wait for the right moment.

The best moment when you can put your life in order is now.

So change your world before it's too late. And tomorrow you will tell the story of “how I changed my life for the better” to all your loved ones. At this point, you will already understand what exactly changed your life.

Each of us at least once in our life thought about the question: how to change our life for the better. As usual, it all started either on Monday, or on New Years, etc. That day came, but ... nothing happened. And even if the first timid steps were taken, then all this quickly faded and rolled back to the stage of intentions and dreams put on the back burner. Isn't it awful?

In this post, you will learn about ten fundamental steps that must be taken to make the intended changes in life irreversible. It will really help change your life. Moreover, if you do not take at least one of these steps, the chances of making the necessary changes in life are significantly reduced. By studying these steps, you can see where you made mistakes when you tried to change your life. These steps are applicable in any area of ​​life, whether it is mastering a new profession, working on your health and physical fitness, getting an education, etc.

First, a little background information that will help you better understand what is going on here.

The human psyche is a very stable thing. On the one hand, this allows you to maintain the integrity of your personality, professional skills, accumulate knowledge, etc. On the other hand, resilience hinders change. And sometimes it interferes so much that even vital changes come with a terrible creak.

But changes in modern conditions are necessary to just stay afloat, and even more so if you understand the importance of growth and development of yourself. We can confidently say that nothing shines for a person in life if he does not constantly work on himself, does not develop and does not acquire new skills and habits. However, the stability of the psyche poses many serious obstacles to change. How to overcome these obstacles and get what you need?

There is an exit. It is necessary to learn new things, master new skills and knowledge. That is, you need to change yourself. You cannot get something qualitatively new in your life if you do what you are doing now. You will only get something new when you start acting differently, armed with new knowledge, skills and habits.

Step 1. Believe that you are the same as others. You are not unique.

No, no, this does not mean that you do not have any zest and uniqueness. This means that if one of the people managed to achieve something, then you can achieve the same and even surpass him. After all, he is only a man, like you. And he, like you, experienced difficulties, doubts, fear, lack of experience and knowledge, ridicule of others.

If you dream of a healthy fit body, you can achieve this. After all, many people already have it. If you want to quit smoking, you can do it.

However, one should bear in mind the downside of its non-uniqueness. Many people have failed to achieve what they want, and therefore, it can easily happen to you. If you act (or fail to act) the same way they do.

It is especially easy to achieve goals if you have many people you know who have already achieved it. If you are surrounded by such people, you will rise quickly. If there are many people around you who have not succeeded, it is highly likely that you will not succeed.

So, strive to stay close to people who already have what you want so much.

Study their books, strive to understand more deeply how they live, how they think, how they act.

Step 2: start building new skills into your life

This literally means that in your lifestyle there should be a place and time for a new one, the very one that you so want to see in your life. It is imperative, and as soon as possible to find a place for this in your diary, on your desktop, in your computer, in your smartphone, etc.

There is an interesting psychological law, according to which, if within a few days (maximum, within a week) you do not take at least the very first and simple steps in the direction you are interested in, interest in this disappears. So desired begins to seem boring and uninteresting.

In order not to become a victim of this law and not to miss what can become the most fateful decision in your life, just appoint yourself a time in which you will do this. Do not think that it will happen somehow in between times. Will not work!

It is necessary to plan this and be sure to do it at the appointed time.

If you decide to study English, you should set aside at least half an hour or an hour for this every day, say, before going to bed. At this time, you just need to sit down at the table, read books, listen to notes, etc.

Decided to go jogging, plan to get up half an hour early and go to the stadium. It's time to run and nothing else!

If you have decided to change your diet for a healthier one, start changing the contents of your refrigerator today. Shop on the way home. And already today try a new dish that meets the new requirements ...

Step 3. Decide what to give up

Each person has only 24 hours a day, 6-10 of which he sleeps. You cannot fill this time with an endless number of things. Something will definitely not come in. Therefore, if you decide to introduce new habits and skills into your life, you should give up something in order to free up time and space for this new one. And, of course, it will be wise if you give up something that clearly interferes with the new and does not have much benefit.

You can get up half an hour earlier to run. But if you don't give up your TV for the night, I'm afraid your running endeavor will quickly fade away. You will not get enough sleep corny, and on this your hobby for jogging will quickly end before it even starts. Want to get up earlier? Then you just need to go to bed earlier! There are no other options!

To find time to study of English language, you need to give up watching your favorite TV series (which, by the way, does not bring you closer to your goal). The time spent on it is wasted on entertainment. And this is not always so necessary.

A new skill should not become transverse to the usual life rut

And you need to think about how to build it smartly, so that there are no insurmountable difficulties or the desire to give up everything and return to the starting position.

Sometimes people try to combine completely opposite desires or try to squeeze into their lives what is clearly superfluous in it. I know people who are "trying" to start a healthy life, start running, do exercises, but do not even think about going to bed at the same time, giving up 30 cigarettes smoked a day and 10 cups of coffee daily. Meaning?

A person is given a sophisticated mind to find a suitable solution to cope with difficulties that at first glance seem insurmountable

Step 4. What you want to bring into your life should be joyful

It is completely pointless to try to do exercises if you are not happy about it. You should not force yourself to learn a foreign language if it does not find at least the slightest joyful response in the depths of your soul.

As experience shows and Scientific research, any undertaking, if it is done through force (without obvious joy and interest), after a couple of months leads to the appearance of disgust.

Have you seen children who, after graduating from music school, do not even want to look at the piano? Exactly!

Do not even try to find "reasonable" reasons to start doing something if it does not resonate inside with joyful interest.

Don't waste your time. Do what you really want to do.

True, it must be said that there are elementary things that are still worth doing, despite the fact that they seem boring to some. For example, brushing your teeth, washing your face, at least sometimes reading books, physically moving, asking questions about your place in life. They bring very rich dividends. And you just have to be mentally ill to abhor such things ...

Step 5. Meet failure as a lesson in life

Have you tried something many times, but it didn't work out? Did you feel bad about the first (second, third) failure and have already decided that you are a failure? They made fun!

Failure is your best friend!

Attentive attitude to one's own failures, pondering their reasons, analysis is The best way achieve what you want. You always have one more chance.

Just analyze carefully why you failed. There are always clear reasons for failure.

Lost a boxing match? This means that the reaction is weak or the blow is not very fast. Can be corrected by training. You just can't start eating right, although you know everything about it? See what gets in the way. Perhaps you need to talk to family members, remove obstructions, etc.

It is important to understand that failure can be accidental, or it can be the result of self-sabotage - internal struggle with yourself (you wanted to fail from the beginning).

Accidental failure can be caused by external reasons beyond your control or by strong emotional upheavals (a rush at work, an accident on the road, natural disasters). If the reason for your failure was a random factor, it is worth taking measures to reduce the likelihood of such failures in the future. And just move on.

In the case of self-sabotage, when you subconsciously resist change, it makes no sense to continue to act with the same methods. You need to find a different approach, change the time and place, find a different teacher, and generally make sure that you really want this. Maybe you are not satisfied with the way to achieve the goal, or maybe this goal is simply not deeply interesting to you ...

An intelligent person acts more wisely and effectively with each failure. Great and successful people have suffered a lot of failures in their time, but they made the right conclusions from them.

Step 6. Consider the pressure of the people around you

You can't even imagine how much people around you are interested in you when you start to change in the direction you need. And the first thing they start to do is persistent attempts to bring you back to their usual state.

Close and familiar people always have some plans for you and expect that you will behave in their usual way.

If you quit smoking, you will definitely be pulled into the smoking room to discuss important news. Moreover, you will feel that you simply have to smoke.

If you start changing your diet and try not to eat at night, there will definitely be someone who will cook insanely fragrant pastries in the evening. You can be sure!

If you start going to the gym, you will surely hear five hundred reasons not to do it with the scientific justification of the terrible harm to fitness from people who have never even tried to exercise!

You must understand that you will surely face such resistance. And you just need to show perseverance and firmness. And there is no need to explain anything to anyone and make excuses. Calmly and thoroughly do what you have planned. In a family, you can limit yourself to one serious conversation and explaining why you are doing this. Gradually, the pressure of others will disappear, and many will even begin to follow you when they see that you are achieving your goals.

Step 7: Reward Yourself for Even Small Success

Very often, real changes take place over a fairly long time. In almost all more or less serious things, noticeable changes occur in a few months. This applies to changes in the figure during fitness, to knowledge of a foreign language, to mastering a difficult skill, such as blind typing or quick reading.

And you just have to be a hero in order to make efforts for several months with almost no visible result. Therefore, reward yourself for even the smallest successes. Celebrate the weekly anniversary of starting your run 🙂 Celebrate the first hundred learned English words or mastering the grammatical forms of the English verb.

Give yourself a nice little gift to thank you for your efforts.

Buy yourself a cake, ice cream, cook your favorite dish, go to the movies, make a pleasant purchase ... It seems like a trifle, but it is very supportive on a long, sometimes difficult path. Your brain gets stimulated and approved by these gratitude. Ultimately, it will keep you motivated.

Step 8: Actively ignore doubts

In any undertaking, doubts are inevitable. No man escaped doubt when he started something new. Doubt is normal, especially when it comes to changing your life.

If you have not done something before, then you will be bad at it anyway. Until you fill your hand and get enough experience. It is natural.

But, beware of getting bogged down in doubt. This is a real swamp, from which it is very, very difficult to get out. Better not to step on it.

Try not to dive too deeply into your failures and failures, which are simply inevitable at the beginning of the path of change. Just get up and move on. Do not allow yourself the thought that, they say, I can't do nifig, I can never, I did it badly again ... This is the path of the swamp. Every time you will fix your attention on the fact that you cannot do it. And you will quickly convince yourself that this is all useless. After all, you seem to have in your hands indisputable facts indicating that everything is going very badly. Thus, each new failure will convince you that you really will not succeed.

But in reality it is not so! With such thoughts, you simply stop your movement, deprive yourself of energy for further movement. But you want something completely different! Therefore, act anyway. Go to your goal, regardless of falls and setbacks. Moreover, failure is an excellent assistant on the way to the goal, as we said above.

It is difficult to imagine the number of people who spent all their energy on doubts, instead of persistently going towards their goal.

Decide for yourself whether you do it or not. And just take the steps you want.

Step 9. Take your time

Any new business is almost always very slow. This is natural, since you do not have the skills and sufficient knowledge. You have to master everything along the way and think over every little thing for a long time. This is a completely normal process.

When a beginner musician masters the first simple pieces, he must play them in a very slow pace, but very clearly and efficiently. This is fine. It takes time to develop the necessary nerve connections and processes in the brain. And after a while the same musician, often unexpectedly for himself, is able to play this piece much faster.

If the musician tries to play this piece at once with the required speed, I am afraid you will not appreciate this music. Moreover, as practice shows, this approach never leads to a high-quality performance of the work. That is, a musician spends hundreds of hours on rehearsals, but rushes events, not allowing the necessary skills to be formed correctly. The result is a complete marriage!

Therefore, you should not rush when starting a new business for yourself. Make sure that it starts to turn out at least a little. Reward yourself for this, give the skill to grow stronger, do not rush to move on. Let the skill become sustainable. Then move on. Change your life gradually but persistently.

Don't try to run if you haven't really learned to crawl.

Give yourself everything required time... And you don't have to bully yourself for being slow. Everyone has their own normal pace. Follow your pace.

And very soon you will realize that you are doing a new business very quickly and very efficiently.

Step 10. Overcome growing pains

When you start moving towards new achievements, mastering new skills and knowledge, you will inevitably face a situation where you are no longer the same person, but also not who you want to become. At this stage, you are, as it were, a semi-finished product.

If you decide to go in for sports, you are no longer the weak and sick person you were at the very beginning, but you are not an athlete yet (the muscles still look like funny bumps and ridiculous bumps on the body). You are on your way. And this state can be uncomfortable. You may feel discord, insecurity, discomfort, irritation. You cannot intelligibly answer the question of who you are now. This is a normal growing pain!

To overcome this uncomfortable state, just try to be your friend. Be mindful of yourself and try to act with awareness. Be aware that you are on the way to your goal. And believe that you will definitely achieve it. If you fail, tell yourself that yes, it happens, if there are successes, rejoice in it with all your heart.

The most important thing for you now is the fact of movement

You grow and develop. This is the main thing. Now you are a river flowing from source to mouth through steppes, deserts, mountains and forests. You do everything in your power to get things done. Apparently, there is nothing more worthy in life!

Understanding and clearly realizing that you are now on the move makes it much easier to cope with failures, the opinions of others and other difficulties.

Print and hang these steps over your desk. Memorize them, put them into practice every day, and changes in life will not be long in coming.