You will never change your life until you change something that you do daily.

Mike Murdock

Start with a simple question: how do you want your life to be?

Do you want to become a writer, musician, designer, programmer, polyglot, carpenter, manga artist, entrepreneur or expert in any field?

How do you plan to achieve this? Do you want to write your wishes on a piece of paper, put it in a bottle and throw it into the sea in the hope that they will come true? Alas, the universe won't do the job for you. You will have to take up your life with your own hands.

Have you set yourself a big and meaningful goal that needs to be achieved by the end of the year or within the next three months? The work doesn't end there. You've probably figured out from your life experience that setting long-term goals doesn't always work. How often has this strategy led you to achieve your goal?

Based on my 7 years of experience, during which I conducted various experiments, I was able to derive the law: “ nothing will change until you start daily changes».

I've tried to come up with a system with weekly changes, things to do every other day, big monthly goals, and many other variations on the theme. None of this worked except for daily changes.

If you do not want to change your daily life, then you generally do not want to change it in the intended way. You just love the idea of ​​learning to draw / speak Japanese / play the guitar / program and so on. But you really don't feel like doing anything.

Pull yourself together and start changing your life every day. Let's find out how it's done!

How to channel your good aspirations into daily change

For clarity, we list several goals:

• lose weight
• write a book
• defeat your own procrastination
• fall in love
• to be happy
• travelling aroun the world
• drink more water
• learn spanish
• learn to save money
• take more photos
• read more books

How do you translate these ultimate goals into a system of daily change? Think about what daily activities would help you move forward and get closer to your goal? Sometimes detailing is not easy. Therefore, I propose a few examples for clarity:

Lose weight. Start walking every day. First, 10 minutes. After a week - 15. Then 20 ... Once, when you are walking for 30-40 minutes a day, make a new change - start drinking water instead of soda and soda.

Write a book. Write 10 minutes a day.

Defeat procrastination. Every morning, find the most important task of the day and work on it for 10 minutes before heading to your browser or grabbing your mobile.

Fall in love. Go somewhere every day and meet new people. Or work day after day to become a fun person.

To be happy. Do things every day that help make the world a better place, help people.

Travelling aroun the world. Start saving money (see next point). Alternatively, start selling your belongings until all of your belongings fit into your backpack. Then hitchhike.

To save money. Start reducing your costs little by little. Start by getting into the habit of eating and cooking at home. Sell ​​your car and start walking, cycling, or train. Find a smaller house (adapted for Russia - rent a smaller apartment). Instead of buying things and services, take care of those that will not cost you a pretty penny.

Drink more water. Drink water when you wake up and then every hour when you take a break (about once an hour).

Learn Spanish. Learn sentences in Spanish using the Anki program and listen to audio tutorials in Spanish for 10 minutes a day (for example, there are free lessons).

Take more photos. Take pictures during your lunch break (but not what you eat) and post them to your blog.

So you've got the idea. Not all of the above examples are perfect, but you can always come up with something that works best for you. The bottom line is to do this on a daily basis.

How to implement daily changes?

This method is very simple to implement and, if you follow it exactly, it will lead you to the result:

1. One change at a time. You can break this rule, but don't be surprised if you end up failing. Work on one thing a month before adding another change. Only add a new change if you successfully completed the first one.

2. Start with small changes. I have spoken about this a thousand times already, and nevertheless, no one remembers about it. Start with 10 minutes a day or less. If the change is difficult for you, it is even better to start with 5 minutes. If you can't do it with 5 minutes, reduce the interval to two.

3. Do the steps to instill a new habit at the same time. Of course, not literally at the same minute at exactly 6 in the morning, but after the same trigger in your daily life: after drinking your first cup of coffee in the morning, immediately after arriving at work, after returning home, after brushing your teeth, showering, eating breakfast, waking up, eating lunch, or turning on your computer.

4. Share your intentions with someone. Better with several people. Make sure that these are the people whose opinions you respect. For example, I made a commitment to my friend Tynan to learn PHP every 10 minutes a day. I also made this commitment to my wife, my blog readers, my children and many other people.

5. Be responsible. Every day I fill Google Sheets with data on what and how many minutes I did each day (talking about the new things that you are trying to bring into your life). For example, how much I programmed. And my friend, about whom I wrote above, has access to this document. He controls me. The tool you use to maintain internal discipline doesn't matter - it could be Twitter posts, Facebook posts, or a personal report to the person helping you. You need to make sure that your partner is monitoring you every day, not every month. If he does not, then find another person who agrees to help you.

6. Set a penalty or reward based on the outcome. The most important motivation for practicing is that if you fail to instill a good habit, then people will respect you less, and if they can, they will respect you more. If your reporting system is not configured this way, you will have to find a new way to make it work. You may need to change the partner who helps you. You can also add some fun to completing your daily tasks. I promised that I would eat whale sushi if I did not fulfill the daily changes planned for myself (I will do them, since for me to eat a whale is tantamount to eating a cow or a child, that is, it is impossible). In another matter, I promised that I would sing in front of strangers a song on Japanese if I suddenly screw up. Make the consequences unbearable for yourself if you missed two days and simply impossible if you missed three days. You can set yourself a reward if you have not missed a single day during the week.

7. Enjoy the change. If doing these new daily activities makes you feel tired, or doing these activities is something of a routine for you, then you are doing something wrong. Find a way to enjoy these activities, otherwise, over time, you will abandon this venture. Or find other things that matter more to you in your life.

That's all. Follow these 7 easy steps and your life will change. Each of these steps is doable. You can start making changes in your life today.

What have you done today to change your life?

After a year, you will regret not taking action today.
Karen Lamb

Determine your position in life, choose a goal and boldly move forward. Avoid any negative information and expression of negative emotions. It is good if there are more successful and kind people around.

Temporary failures should not be unbalanced, you should never be upset, it is better to try to learn a life lesson from what is happening. You have to believe in yourself and your success.

Don't get hung up on the question of how to attract luck and success into your life. Start thinking positively (even if it doesn't work right away) and act. Never give up. Even if you get sick, do not despair, do not let the blues get the better of you - this will only make you feel worse.

Never build up anger, resentment, and anger. These are negative emotions that get in the way of happiness. Get rid of these feelings immediately. But just do not throw out your irritation and bad mood on those who are nearby (on relatives, relatives or colleagues), but arrange, for example, general cleaning... Being active will help you get through any troubles. Walking in the fresh air will also be effective. Ordinary idleness helps someone. Finding peace of mind at home - what could be easier? You just have to lie on the couch or sleep for a few hours, take a relaxing bath, listen to pleasant music, read, watch your favorite movie or TV series - the mood will noticeably improve, and there will be no trace of negativity. Our brain will hide away all unnecessary, while leaving only useful information - this is how we are arranged.

How to organize your life and inner world

Throw out all rubbish and rubbish from your home without regret. Hold workplace okay, and my head is clean, consolidated from bad thoughts. Try to make work a joy, do not forget to fully rest. Remember your personal space and do not violate the boundaries of others. Respect people. Give up TV and devote more time to reading (but only worthy literature), self-development.

If guilt haunts you, don't be afraid to be the first to ask for forgiveness. And if for some reason this is no longer possible, then forgive yourself.

Buy an alarm clock with a nice melody and don't jump out of bed in the morning like a fire. Allow yourself to spend a few minutes in pleasant thoughts. Stretch, smile, think about the day ahead, imagine the good moments ahead. It will take no more than five minutes. Look out the window and try to enjoy any weather - and the bright sun, and snowfall, and downpours. Over time, this will become a habit, and even in bad weather you will leave the house in a good mood, not paying attention to the wind, cold or pouring rain.

How to fill your life with joy and positive

Radiate joy every day, no matter how hard your soul may be. Positive emotions will return a hundredfold. Despite the burden of problems facing all of humanity, it is important to remain optimistic in everyday life and share your warmth with others. Try to provide at least the smallest possible help to those who need it. But don't expect huge gratitude and praise in return. People easily forget about good deeds others are not always repaid with good. You have to be condescending to such human nature. When doing good to someone, do it simply because being kind and generous is much better than being mean and greedy.

Anger, envy, hatred are imprinted on our faces. And if you do not change in better side, then you can soon be afraid of your reflection in the mirror. Help others not only materially, but also spiritually. Sometimes simple words of support or a sincere conversation mean more to a person than material goods. Easily forget the bad, but never the good.

For your life to change, you need to grow. To grow, you need to change yourself. You cannot grow if you constantly stay in one place, if your views and thoughts do not change. Our life is constantly changing. This is an ongoing process. Once your life stops changing, your growth stops.

1. Don't fuss. Take time to sort out your life

It takes time to change your life. If you are always busy, and you don't even have time to think about how you can change your life for the better, you will not have time to take any measures for this. Stop, do not fuss, take time to understand where you need to go, what to do.

2. Get ready for change

Being ready for change is very important. This is your life. Nobody can change your life but you. And since your life today was created by your own hands, in order for it to change, you first of all need to change yourself. If you yourself do not want to change, nothing in this world will force you to do it.

To find the willingness to take action, you must first understand that you can always change your life for the better. No matter how good or bad she is, she can always get better.

3. Take charge of your life

To change your life for the better, you must take responsibility for your life. Do not blame other people, your country, your boss, or evil fate for your failures. Whether your life rises up or rolls down depends only on you. Once you accept responsibility, change is available to you. Because it will mean that you are ready for decisive action, and are not going to look for excuses.

4. Build on your values

What do you think is the most valuable thing in life? What should be the world around you so that you can live happily? What can you do to change your world and make it look like the world of your dreams?

Your true values ​​are deep in your heart. Find them. These are the values ​​and principles you can rely on. Find them and keep them in mind constantly. They will help you change your life for the better. This is a very powerful support.

5. Find motivation

Answer yourself to the question: “Why do I need to change my life? What will it give me? What will happen if nothing is changed? "

Understand for yourself the most important reason why you want to change your life. Think about it ... Don't forget your vector. It is very important!

Change is not easy because there is inertia that you need to overcome. You will need a strong source of energy to overcome your life momentum. Your reason, your motivation, is your source of energy. And it will give you strength.

6. Replace limiting beliefs with promoting ones.

Limiting beliefs are the biggest obstacle to life change. You must identify them before you start fighting them. To do this, track your thoughts containing phrases:

• "I can not …"
• "I am not able to ..."
• "This is too much for me ..."
• "No exit…"
• "This is difficult for me ..."
• "Others do better than me ..."
• “I don’t have enough opportunities for this ...”

Write them down. After a while, look at your list. These are your limiting beliefs.

After identifying your limiting beliefs, you must replace them with promoting beliefs that open up new opportunities for you. Write down positive statements versus negative statements you wrote down earlier. It is best to write them down as affirmations and repeat them daily. As long as it becomes a habit for you to follow them.

7. Replace bad habits with positive ones

In addition to identifying limiting beliefs, you should also identify your bad habits. Which of your habits are preventing you from coming to a place where you will be happy? What habits are pulling you down? What habits would you like to break up with? List them. Write them down on a piece of paper.

Instead of trying to break these habits, focus on creating new positive habits that will replace them. For example, it's a bad habit to watch too much TV. Make a positive habit to use this time. the best way... For example, start reading more.

8. Find a mentor

If you feel that you, at the moment, do not have enough personal measures, you should find an assistant. It can be any person, specialist, or just your friend who will help your systematic progress. Will help in difficult moment, will warn you about possible pitfalls on your way. Without a mentor, you will have to go through a lot more difficulties and challenges. Having a mentor will save you a large number of of your time.

Getting a good mentor isn't easy. Don't expect someone to easily agree to spend time and effort on you without getting anything in return. At the very least, you should show yourself to be an open and understanding person. Also, try to be helpful to your mentor. Help him, you can make his job easier. In this way, you will demonstrate your seriousness.

9. Set realistic goals for yourself.

Having an initially correct expectation that matches your desires and capabilities is very important. Otherwise, you will easily be discouraged that things are not going the way you expected. This can unsettle you and force you to step back from what you intended.

Track the milestones on your journey to ensure you are always on the right track.

Life changing takes time, especially if you want these changes to last for a long time. Having the right expectation for a real goal will give you resilience in difficult times.

10. Maintain Energy

The hardest part is the beginning. After it is left behind, it will be much easier for you. The main thing is to maintain the momentum. This is the same mechanism as the car. The hardest part is getting the car to start moving. After that, he will move quite easily until you decide to stop him. The main thing is to fill it up on time, do a technical inspection, take care of its condition. Thus, he will always be at your disposal.

I really hope that this article will help you put things in order in your reasoning, gain the determination to go forward, and start taking action to change your life for the better.

Many of us, faced with life's difficulties and problems, think about the question of how to change our life by starting all over again. However, it is one thing to want to do this, and quite another to carry out your plans. Consider in this article the most simple ways such changes.

Why does one want to start all over again?

The fate of a person is full of joys, bright events, and hardships, difficulties. It happens that a person gets used to dealing with difficulties and does it successfully. However, situations are often created when people are simply not able to cope with the traumatic situation in which they find themselves. And then they begin to think about the question of how to change their lives. This is not an easy question, but only the person who asked it can answer it. How to be in a situation of life crossroads?

Having found yourself in a state of life impasse, it is important to understand what was the main reason for the situation in which you found yourself. The reasons can be very diverse: from external to internal. It can be troubles at work, which are associated with the fact that you are hungry for a career, but for years trample on the same position, low-paid and not prestigious. You want variety in your work, but you have to spend 8 hours a day in a stuffy office with boring and petty people, doing what you don't like.

These can be family troubles associated with the fact that you have lost both affection and respect for your marriage partner. You are trying to rebuild yourself and keep the family for the sake of children, for the sake of your shared past, but you understand that you cannot do this. From here comes the feeling of longing and dissatisfaction with one's fate.

Thus, you cannot simply find a solution to how to change your life without understanding these deeper mental problems. Without a careful appeal to the world of one's own conscious and unconscious, nothing will come of it.

Perhaps your present present is far from happy, but that does not mean that it will always be so. Life is generally an extremely changeable thing, so your today's joy tomorrow can become your grief, and vice versa. How to change your life? This is the question, the answer to which should be sought in the depths of your heart.

In order not to indulge in a feeling of melancholy, you need to look for something good in the present day. You do not want to change everything, you have to leave something. Affectionate sun, friends, loving relatives. Look for what is meaningful to you in the present and appreciate that gift.

Third advice. If you decide to change something, think carefully and seriously about your steps.

If you nevertheless decided that your life is now impossible without changes, rationally think over all your actions. After all, the question of how to change your life for the better is very important.

Decide what you must do to make your dream come true: change jobs, or maybe get professional retraining, break family ties or start a new family, etc. There are people who find a way out of the crisis for themselves in what they take on raising a baby from the Baby House, and there are those who go on a long business trip abroad.

However, remember that finding a solution to how to change your life may not work on the first try. This requires a long and difficult work on yourself and on the circumstances of your life path.

It is very difficult to change something in the established order of your being, therefore, you must calculate with due diligence the consequences that life will lead to after you make a certain decision. After all, it is not enough just to say to yourself: "We are changing life for the better." It is important to understand what needs to be changed, how and what will happen when you do what you have in mind.

For example, a 33-year-old woman who is married to a person she does not love realizes that she is tired of family life... Despite the fact that she has a child preschool age, she decides to end her marriage because its further preservation seems absurd to her. However, after a painful divorce and division of property, as well as determining the place of residence of the child with her, this woman falls into an even deeper depression. She realizes that her desire to become a mother again is no longer feasible, the former spouse now seems less boring, and life alone without a partner seems simply unbearable.

Therefore, before committing fateful deeds in life, you should understand that the phrase "changing life for the better" should actually come true, that is, you should really improve, and not worsen your life situation.

Fifth advice. Or maybe all this is just an age crisis?

It so happens that a person falls into the deepest depression, he feels unnecessary, tired, and has lost the meaning of his being. The picture as a whole is completely bleak. A person decides that something is wrong in his life, he thinks about the question of how to change his life for the better, changes something radically, however, having gone through certain trials, he realizes that he has not achieved anything: longing in soul as it was, and remained. And you can neither destroy nor extinguish it, you can only live with it, and it is very painful to live. What to do in such a situation?

In such a situation, you need to think, and maybe a person's condition is a manifestation of an age crisis? Let's try to answer the question of what such crises are.

A little about the midlife crisis

In this case, we are interested in a crisis called the midlife crisis. By the way, psychologists believe that this crisis manifests itself at any age of a person, for some it begins at the age of 28, and for some it manifests itself only after 40.

How does this crisis manifest itself? The fact that a person on average 33-38 years old begins to suddenly realize that his life is wasted. Despite the fact that he started a family and reached certain career heights, this does not mean anything to him. He could not find his answer to the question of how to change life in the order that he had counted on in his youth.

And the person starts to rush. He is looking for something new, something that would drown out his inner melancholy and give meaning to his being. Often women at this age give birth to another child who is treated differently from their previous children. Men at this age, due to the crisis, can leave their former family and decide on a new marriage. Some people leave their former profession forever, some people may get carried away by alcohol or other means of calming the soul.

However, is a midlife crisis bad for everyone?

It cannot be said that this crisis has purely negative consequences. For some people, it becomes a kind of litmus test, which shows that something is going wrong in life. Many people want to change their thoughts, change their lives, and the crisis of this age period helps them to do this. He points out where the cause of the problems is, helps to establish that there are some flaws in the fate of a person and to correct them before it is too late. As the famous Soviet psychologist L. S. Vygodsky wrote, the age crisis is an occasion to look at oneself in a new way. It is during the period of maturity, thanks to the onset of this state, that certain neoplasms in the psyche are formed in a person, which allow him to change something in his fate in the future.

Change your life: where to start?

This question is both simple and complex at the same time. As a rule, they are asked by people who are still at a crossroads: something needs to be changed, this is clear. But how to change, how radical should these changes become? These questions remain open. Let's try to answer them.

People who have changed their lives admit that the most difficult step was the first step towards the new reality. For example, someone has dreamed of getting higher education, but life circumstances did not allow this to be done in adolescence and youth. And now a person has approached the 40-year mark, he has a profession and a decent income, but in his heart he remains unsure of himself, believing that he is missing something. Deciding to go to higher education educational institution, such a future student is afraid of a lot: how his relatives and friends will look at him, how he will feel in a student environment, etc. However, having turned the situation around and having studied at least one semester at the university, such a person feels like a winner: he was able to change his thoughts , change life, achieved what he dreamed of all his youth and youth.

Or another example. A woman of thirty-five years old dreamed of a child all her life, for many years she was treated for infertility, but did not achieve her goal. As a result, she developed a lingering and severe depression with suicidal thoughts. She met a man who wanted to join her life destiny. Before marriage, a woman hesitated for a long time, because she had lost hope of becoming a mother. But, having decided on this step, six months later she found out that she was expecting a child. The joy of the birth of a baby overshadowed all her sorrows, she found the meaning of life and realized that her desire, expressed in the phrase “I want to change my life,” came true, she was able to move her fate in a positive direction.

But how do you find the strength for positive change?

As a rule, it is very difficult to find the strength for such positive changes. After all average age- this is not the time of adolescence, when many of the problems seem insignificant. After the thirty-year milestone, it is difficult to change, you need to force yourself to believe that joy is sure to await you somewhere around the turn of your being.

Do you want to change your life for the better? Where to start, don't you know? Let's answer directly. You need to start with a holistic analysis of your entire life path. Having carried out such an analysis on our own or together with psychologists or with significant relatives, we must make a fateful decision: what exactly needs to be changed?

And after all the thought, start your new path. Most likely, at the beginning of the path it will be very difficult, new decisions will be difficult, but you should not give up. If the feeling of melancholy and meaninglessness of life completely torments you, then it is important to just try to live every day with a smile, enjoy the little things of life and, going to bed, thank God for giving you one more day of life. Gradually, circumstances will help you to accept the new reality.

And finally, let us give one last piece of advice on the topic: "Change your life for the better: where to start?" In spite of everything, cultivate optimism in life. Believe in your future, sincerely believe that the people around you need you, constantly look for things and worries for yourself, so as not to indulge in sad thoughts. Fight with external circumstances, do not give up, do not lose faith in yourself and in the fact that a lucky star leads you through life, and all trials only strengthen you and give you precious life experience.

And therefore, if you have decided to yourself: "I want to change my life," change it, go ahead, and everything will be fine with you. One has only to believe it. Go for it!

Happy are those people who are satisfied with their life. It is believed that the ideal state of affairs is when you dream at work, how you will go home, and at home you dream about how to be at work as soon as possible. It is good when a person loves what he is doing, it is great if he has close people, excellent if he loves what is always with him.

What percentage of the world's population lives happily? The question is complex and it is simply unrealistic to give any definite answer to it. One thing is for sure - many only do what they think about, Why? Is it really so bad for them in this world? Not necessarily - even happy people think about how to change their lives. Everything can always be different. Often we strive for our goals, but over time we realize that we are bogged down in the wrong thing. How is it possible at all? Of course available. True, for this you will have to try hard. The price is small for what is easy.

How to change your life?

Similar questions often arise in those people who have reached a certain age. They turn back and see nothing that could please, make them feel proud. How to change your life? To do this, first of all, you will have to change yourself. By acting correctly, you can get results very soon.

Many believe that our life is nothing more than a reflection of our own thoughts. Everything that is around is created by our thoughts. Fiction? In no case. Just think - why do we always get what we really want? The answer is simple - desiring something badly, we subconsciously behave in such a way that we can get it. Our consciousness comes up with and executes complex moves that ultimately lead us to our goals. This is not magic, but the most ordinary psychology.

How to change your life? Set clear goals for yourself and do everything to achieve them. Decide what you want. Also decide on what does not suit you in life now.

Do you have no education? It doesn’t matter - it’s never too late to learn. The choice is large: distance learning, correspondence, full-time ... Today everything is arranged in such a way that even those who are constantly busy with work can get an education. Why do you need education. First of all, it will add status to you, and a new education will also allow you to change jobs. Often their work, but they do not find the courage to leave it. In most cases, this is due to the fact that they are afraid not to find another. To be afraid is actually very, very stupid. Why go every day to a place where everything is disgusting? How to change your life? Be sure to change your job if it doesn't make you happy. One German philosopher said that if a job gives nothing but money, you should not stay on it. Think about it. It is possible that you are wasting your precious time at work.

How to change your life? Start reading books, exercise, tidy up your appearance... Try to imagine the image of a brave, decisive person who walks through life confidently, and no difficulties frighten him. What to do next? No big deal - just become that person. Think correctly and you will definitely succeed. Expand your horizons constantly. New knowledge will help you at the same time and expand your circle of friends. New people can be interesting.

Are you happy with the place you live in? Your city? An apartment? Believe me, it's never too late to just move to another city. What will it give? In fact, a lot. First of all, I would like to draw your attention to the fact that by acting radically (“burning bridges”) we become more decisive. When you have nothing to lose, retreating is simply useless.