Actor Alexey Serebryakov, living in Canada, sees a national idea in force, arrogance and rudeness. With his opinion it is difficult to agree, but rudeness and arrogance sometimes meets in everyday life. How to deal with arrogance and rudeness without giving yourself offense?

Sometimes there are people who make aggressive comments and attacks in your direction. How to deal with rudeness and resist Hamam?

Stay calm

One of the techniques of opposition to arrogance and rudeness is non-vulnerable. When a person shouts at you, hens rudeness or disrespect should not go on his occasion. Do not show your confusion or fear. Do not let the Hama pour out or bring you out of themselves. Do not try to defend or defend it, as if you are justifying. Quietly, clearly, firmly, confident and relaxed to present his point of view on what is happening. Be above the height and Hama. Smile in the face of the height ironic and dismissively. Staying calm in the manifestation of aggression is a sign of force.

Yawai or chihni

The enemy runs on you, criticizes and is trying to morally suppress? Whether be calm, and after Ham is interrupted for a moment, yawn or chihni. Sorry and tell me with a smile that you are allergic to nonsense and crazy stories. Ask what else wants to say and finished his monologue to his interlocutor. After such an apathetic reaction, all the attempts of the height, the interlocutor will feel the losers, and you will go out the winner.

Ignore

Sometimes the enemy is trying to cause response aggression, disassembly or conversation. If you are not ready to join the controversy, then ignore the height. Ham is trying to attract your attention, and you do not give it to him. Let's look to the side, Zowni and ignore his miserable fun to draw you into a conversation. Demonstrate ignore and smile.

How to answer rudeness and arrogance? Sometimes you want to plug the inspected and funny phrase. What to say how do you get? It is sometimes difficult to immediately come up with a ridiculous answer, suitable situations. But there are ready-made decent answers to rudeness, which will attract your opponent on the blades and put out the fool. Lock a couple of them. Print the harmful response with a smirk and sarcasm.

1. You confused me with someone who is interested in your opinion.
2. I am not interested in your complexes and problems.
3. Are you trying to offend me?
4. Rudeness you are not to face.
5. His beauty will not save the world.
6. Bad day today?
7. Train your sense of humor, it is still in the infancy.
8. I was a better opinion about you.
9. Are you politely replied?
10. Roth open the dentist.
11. I do not talk with stupid.
12. Do you know where you should go?
13. I am very "important" your opinion.
14. Do you hurt your life?
15. Nature has been looking at you.
16. I watch you do not differ intelligence.
17. Will yell on your children.
18. I do not answer stupid questions.
19. I do not like to communicate with insignificals.
20. Where so much on Lokhov Street?
21. Large words of a small man.
22. Another offended by God.
23. In the mental hospital, open doors?
24. Silent, you will go for smart.
25. You are not so beautiful to heat.
26. Enlighten silently.
27. I'm not talking to drunk and fools.
28. I don't like something, you can shoot.
29. I am not offended at poorly.
30. Is that all that is capable of?
31. Enough splashing saliva.
32. When I want to know your opinion, I will ask.
33. Where does the unpleasant smell come from, and this mouth you open.
34. Go go to the forest.
35. Moma slept with whom?
36. In the book of garbage of the world you are in the last place.
37. Where are so much degenerates from?
38. There are no brains, it means crippled.
39. There are many words, and there are few brains.
40. Child go to parents.
41. Not at that gavkay.
42. Mouth open at the level of the stying level.
43. Grandson Petrosyan?
44. Not scaling, I'm not afraid of horses.
45. What a funny and evil dog from you.
46. \u200b\u200bNot original, but then the seals will fly out.
47. Once the language is so long, probably a member is short.
48. I look neither forces, no mind, no fantasy.
49. I would send you, but you are only from there.
50. I'm not offended on fools.

Sometimes the height and Hama can shut up a couple of good blows into the jaw.

"A blow to the nose is directly obviously and quickly heal. But the blow, applied to your self-esteem in the right way and at the right time, can cripple you until the death "
~ Jer Carter, Doctor of Psychology

We all had faced with people seeking somehow mocked us, humiliate us and destroy our self-esteem. And it's not so important where you come across them - at work, at home, or in a circle of friends. Next to us will certainly have at least one person who appeals to us much worse than we deserve.

And the worst thing is that they reduce our assessment as thin and unmarried ways that other people do not always see it. And if we try to explain what we feel, our tormentors will easily transfer everything to their own way, putting us excessively sensitive, egoists and prone to spelling judgments, turning from victims to offenders.

I hope when you explore them in more detail, you will begin much better understand who is who in the world around you:

1. They make you unsure

One of the methods of nasty people - constantly maintain insecurity in you. You never know when they explode hysteria or do something that will bring you out of themselves.

For example, you may seem that you have achieved mutual understanding, you have common topics for fun, and you, in general, began to trust this person. And so, when everything goes in a similar way for a while for some time, suddenly a nasty man does something that turns out everything that was before, and again plunges you into the state of uncertainty and uncertainty.

You never know exactly what to feel about this person, and therefore create an emotional crutch, convincing themselves that you still like it.

2. They like to project their feelings on you

The projection of feelings can be explained very simple: this is when a person takes on the basis of his feelings, but places responsibility for them on you. For example, a person who dislike you can tell you: "I think I don't like me."

They conclude you into the framework of their projection, forcing you to explain and justify before them. And instead of thinking about the intentions of nasty people, you begin to doubt your own feelings.

3. They often try to manipulate you

Manipulators seek power. Vile people want to feel higher than you, and often - and make you assume that you are obliged to them. Such behavior is often found among politicians and managers.

For example, if you are asked to work overtime, you already have plans for this evening, your boss can try to convince you that work is much more important than your plans.

And if you recall those evenings that you worked overtime earlier, he will most likely try to turn everything in such a way that, allegedly, you were called on them themselves, or they worked out some kind of "service" of the boss.

4. They are always trying to impose their opinions on others.

Vile people love to hang labels on people around, and then behave as if everyone agrees with them. For example, saying "you are irresponsible", this person considers himself by saying that you are such a person, and everyone around will agree with this characteristic.

Nasty people hang labels for you because they are subconsciously trying to break your self-esteem in small crishevo instead of helping you cope with a real problem (if present). Help will cope with the problem - it means to take on and part of the responsibility, and it's not ready to go for nice people.

5. Even when they say the truth, they generalize and inflate her

Take care of generalizations. Vile people often use generalizations in order to make an elephant fly. For example, if you forgot to remove in the apartment, a nasty person can say: "You will never help me" (translation: you forgot to remove in the apartment), or "From you no use" (translation: you forgot to remove in the apartment).

And again, instead of doing a real problem, they beat on your self-esteem. The problem is that in the apartment is dirty, and not that you are useless or do not help.

6. They shall shock beats

"I do not want to upset you, but ..." (most likely, you will be upset by something now). "I do not want to interrupt you, but ..." (but already interrupted!).

As a rule, nasty people who are going to strike a shock to you, they say a soft, sympathetic voice. Their faces seek sympathy. They may seem with my flies - only in the second hand behind their backs to squeeze the dagger.

7. They are investing double meaning

The double meaning is usually manifested in phrases, whose words say one thing, and the tone is completely different. For example, nasty people can ask you with a mockery tone: "Well, how are you?" And if you answer, how, most likely, you want, "I went out!", A nasty man with a clean conscience will tell all his friends that you have a bad mood today, and you rush to everyone, but he just asked how You are doing

Vile people are large masters in the compilation of phrases with a double bottom. Observers, they may even seem harmless, but you immediately feel how they beat right into the target.

8. They love to break the conversation

Another valuable instrument of a nasty person is to overturn a conversation on the half-word. If he asks you to tell something about yourself, be sure - it will break away before you finish answering.

Yes, and their questions often with trick. If you ask something like "did you stop drinking brandy in the morning?", Know, the correct answer to this question simply does not exist. A vile man can even break the dialogue with you in the middle, leaving you alone with a bunch of unspoken thoughts.

9. They raise you to the top, and after wing wings

But when you really need help, a nasty man gently and unobtrusively switch your attention to your negative features. So he will be able to beat you the wings, so that you have to enter your own sense of superiority and instill confidence in you, what you need it.

10. They use "Double wander" on you

"Double wander" is the most darling of all their techniques, because with it you hurt yourself and in the event that you agree with them, and in mind. For example, if you burn the courses for improving self-esteem, your "second half" can begin to envy you or assume that your enhanced self-esteem is threatened with something. And in the end, you encounter an ultimatum: "Or I, or your courses."

Of course, you are not going to abandon the well-established personal relations for the course - but thereby you deprive yourself the slightest chance of entering the slightest positive changes.

How to avoid influence of nasty people

Now, having learned about 10 methods that are nasty people spoil your life, you are not only much better imagine how to resist them, but also better understand the vile people themselves, and their intentions.

No wonder they say that knowledge is power. And even if we cannot avoid some people in our lives, we can at least avoid their traps.

And after all, everything that is needed is to pay more attention to the behavior of the people around us, and behave with them more confident and assertive.

) At the last job in the journal there were constantly shocks with the director of the photo service. "Develop any strategy in communicating with a person who does not do anything at the workplace and whose blood is in the blood, everything is faced with, it is impossible, without coming on the throat with his own opinion," she is sure.

Light recalls that the "difficult" boss, first, was a very loud voice, and secondly, he really loved to talk, - to shout, it was impossible to reach him. "I had to just famine the conversations, the bugger from the perturbation," she says. "It is just necessary to not pay attention to such people and pretend that you listen to music. If this nasty type will pick and sway, to impose your next accurate conversation - politely send, Referring to Avral. " Sveta did not work out with a conflict chief: as a result, she was dismissed with him.

Those who do not want to lose work because of the "difficult" colleagues, Timesonline offers 10 behavioral councils that can help you not only to blame with a difficult person, but also internally change their attitude towards him.

1. See deeper

"People do not come to work specifically, to make their job as worse and spoil your life," says the director of the Consulting company YSC Matt Brown. "You need to try to understand the root of the problem. That is, to understand what moves the man, what is his motives, why is it? He is now not in the best condition. "

2. Change your thoughts

If you enter into a conversation, thinking about the source as a difficult person, you immediately take a defensive position, which can create tensions between you, and this does not help. "Change your angle of view," says the general director of the company Inspiring Potential Marielen Sabatie. "Maybe this person is not difficult at all, but just not like you."

3. Change your actions

"When we face problematic colleagues, it's easier to achieve an understanding on their part, focusing on the understanding of what they need from us," says Garet Inglish, Senior Consultant of OPP. - The easiest way to think: "Why should I change if there is a problem in them ? "However, the bottom line is that they are your problem, and if you want to decide it, the most effective way to do this is to take responsibility for changes on yourself. Often the decision is to first change something in your behavior." .

4. Do not delay the solution to the problem

The longer you ignore the problem, the insolute it becomes. Often a simple conversation can be enough to solve the question in place. "If you have a conflict with someone who led you, you just need to figure out the essence," says Brown.

5. Communicate at their level

Most people respond to a difficult situation with their usual communication models, only enhanced degrees. "It is better to try to determine how your communication style is different from them, and try to adapt it accordingly," says Inglish.

6. If you need to inform bad news - prepare for the worst

To inform the difficult news to communicate a bad news - always an affordable occupation. However, negative side effects can be smoothed by directness in their actions. You need to remove the entire emotional part and focus on the main thing.

7. Do not reward for bad behavior

Stop solving other people's problems, or you have to do it again and again. And do not let yourself draw yourself in disputes to people trying to attract attention in this way. Even if you defeat this fight, you will lose the battle.

8. Be consistent and understandable

If the problem is in human behavior, tell me that it should change in it. If the colleague continues to demonstrate bad behavior, tell me directly and immediately - do not wait for the next official audience.

9. Focus on purposes, and not on the methods

Problems may arise when the discussion begins to rotate around the ways to do something, and not what should be done. You must have a clear idea of \u200b\u200bwhat you want to achieve. Focus on the purpose of the conversation, and not on everything to do everything.

10. Some things are not amenable to correction.

"Maybe a person behaves like this, because this organization does not suit him," says Williams. "It is possible to change the terms of his contract or even refuse its services." In some situations, for example, we are talking about aggression, there are practically no way to resist the "difficult" person. And the solution here can be only one thing - to leave or (if it is in your competence) to dismiss the "difficult" colleague.

To fall in love!

However, Olga's assistant has the last (and wonderful) way to blame with a difficult colleague. "If a person is difficult to communicate, I fall in love with him, it's not difficult to do it, because everyone has good and bad qualities," she says. "You need to appreciate the person in the complex and understand what it is extraordinary and stunning. In love with a person everything Difficulties are not difficulties, but joy :) Every moment of communication gives pleasure and happiness, and when people see how happiness they bring to you, they change for the better! "

Pay attention to their conversations. Do not erupt, but when they turn to you or those who are near, listen carefully. They talk only about themselves? Are they angry or annoyed if they cease to be in the spotlight? This is quite serious signs of arrogance.

• Employment and complacency often simply indicate a lack of life experience and concern that those who have it more, "have the benefits of them." Instead of learning more, ask questions and learn something (and these actions they perceive as weakness), the insolent of themselves do general conclusions from their limited experience and try to impose their narrow point of view to everyone else.
• Because of the envy to your achievements or lifestyles, some may be emphasized to show superiority in front of you in the fact that they seem to do it better or because they have, and you have no.
• Naughty people experience the strongest need to look good. If, because of you, they appear in poor light - even because of the slightest remarks - their reaction is usually very aggressive. For example, if you question (or it seems to them that put) their appearance, mind, athletic abilities or something else associated with their image.

Once it was right to remain modest - many remember the Soviet films who brought up modesty in children, obedience. But of course, nothing stands on the spot. Times are changing, morals change. To defend your opinion, be unreleased in your rules is one. But be brazen - quite another. And although everyone has a clear idea that such arrogance, it is still not easy to define this concept.

We all came across, and more than once, when people violate the established norms of behavior, seeking to get something for their benefit. For example, pass out of turn when others defended in her decent time, selected from other certain benefits for the rights stronger. So it turns out: the arrogance solves the problem, it allows you to get the desired one simple way.

Signs of arrogance:

• Disregard for public opinion established by the norms if it interferes.
• Naked can take what does not belong to him without an embarrassment.
• A arrogant man considers his interests more important, he will not wait, to give way to ladies, scend with children or give tribute to age. He needs to get - he also gets, despite the fact that the interests of others will suffer.
• Even if someone starts to be outraged, he will not change his tactics: silently or starts rudely responding. But he will not refuse his actions.
• No shame. He is very careful that you will think.
• The presentation of unreasonable requirements, excessive perseverance. Still say "takes Nakhp."
• The naked car interferes in other people's affairs, and even can impose its point of view.
• Corrence, attempts to keep off the desire to prevent him.

It turns out, arrogance is the second happiness?

Looking at such "brands", many also want to be "bitter": it is easier, faster, some goals are achieved with smaller losses. But worth Lie