"Sin of Lucifer"

We, people brought up in Soviet times, were taught from childhood that pride is almost the main virtue of a Soviet person. Remember: "Man - it sounds proudly"; "The Soviets have their own pride: they look down on the bourgeoisie." Indeed, pride is at the heart of any rebellion. Pride is Satan's sin, the first passion that appeared in the world even before the creation of humans. And the first revolutionary was Satan.

When the angelic world was created, the heavenly host, one of the highest and most powerful angel, Dennitsa, did not want to be in obedience and love for God. He was proud of his power and strength and desired to become like God himself. Dennitsa carried many angels along with him, and a war broke out in heaven. Archangel Michael and his angels fought with Satan and defeated the evil army. Satan-Lucifer fell like lightning from heaven to hell. And since then, the underworld, hell is a place where dark spirits dwell, a place devoid of the light and grace of God.

The rebel-revolutionary cannot but be proud, he is the successor of the cause of Lucifer on earth.

Communism is a quasi-religion, and, like any creed, it has its own "creed" and its own commandments. Their "relics", "icons", banners - banners and religious processions - demonstrations. Only the Bolsheviks intended to build a paradise on earth, without God, and, of course, any idea of ​​humility was considered ridiculous and absurd. What kind of humility, when "we are ours, we will build a new world, whoever was nothing, he will become everything."

However, God cannot be mocked, and history itself passed its own judgment on the Bolsheviks. It was not possible to build a paradise without God, proud plans were put to shame. But although communism fell, pride did not diminish, it just took different forms. Talking to a modern person about humility is also very difficult. After all, a capitalist market society aimed at success and career growth is also based on pride.

Although one often hears at confession, when you ask a question about the sin of pride, and the following answer: "Something, but I have no pride." One woman writes to Saint Theophan the Recluse: “I spoke with her spiritual father and told him different things about herself. He told me bluntly that I was proud and vain. I answered him that I was not at all proud, but I hate humiliation and servility. " And this is what the saint replied to her: “The suns are splendid. Do not let yourself be offended by them, so that they know that you cannot be grabbed with your bare hand. See, you thought of calling it, and even in your eyes? Now I will also condemn you: what is the best proof that you are proud, how is your rebuke? She is not the fruit of humility. And why should you cross such a sentence? .. It is better for you, not to cross, to get into yourself thoroughly, whether, in fact, this potion is extremely unkind in you. "

So what is pride and how does this sin manifest itself? Let us turn again to Saint Ignatius (Brianchaninov): pride is “the contempt of one's neighbor. Preferring yourself to everyone. Impudence. Clouding, weakness of mind and heart. Pinning them to the earthly. Hula. Disbelief. False Mind. Disobedience to the law of God and the Church. Following your fleshly will. Reading heretical, depraved, vain books. Disobedience to authorities. Poignant mockery. Abandonment of Christ-imitative humility and silence. Loss of simplicity. Loss of love for God and neighbor. False philosophy. Heresy. Godlessness. Ignorance. Death of the Soul ".

Judgment and conviction

Saint Cassian the Roman speaks of pride that although it is the last in the list of eight passions, “but in the beginning and in time there is the first. This is the most ferocious and most indomitable beast. "

Pride in a series of passions stands after vanity, and therefore stems from this vice, has a beginning in it. "The flashing of lightning foreshadows a thunderous strike, and of pride foreshadows the appearance of vanity," exhorts the Monk Nilus of Sinai. The search for vain, vain glory, praise, overestimated self-esteem gives rise to exaltation over people: “I am higher than them, more worthy; they are below me. " This is pride. Condemnation is associated with this feeling. How, if I am above everyone, then it means that I am more righteous, everyone else is more sinful than me. High self-esteem does not allow one to objectively judge oneself, but it helps to be a judge of others.

Pride, starting with vanity, can reach the depths of hell, because this is the sin of Satan himself. None of the passions can grow to such limits as pride, this is precisely its main danger. But back to condemnation. To condemn means to judge, anticipate the judgment of God, usurp His rights (this is also a terrible pride!), For only the Lord, who knows the past, present and future of a person, can judge him. The Monk John of Savvaite relates the following: “Once a monk came to me from a neighboring monastery, and I asked him how the fathers lived. He answered: "Well, according to your prayers." Then I asked about the monk, who did not enjoy a good reputation, and the guest said to me: "He has not changed at all, father!" Hearing this, I exclaimed: “It's bad!”. And as soon as I said this, I immediately felt as if delighted and saw Jesus Christ crucified between two robbers. I was rushing to worship the Savior, when suddenly He turned to the forthcoming angels and said to them: "Take him out, this is Antichrist, for he condemned his brother before My judgment." And when, according to the word of the Lord, I was expelled, my mantle remained in the doorway, and then I woke up. “Woe to me, - I said then to my brother who came, - I am angry this day!”. "Why is that?" He asked. Then I told him about the vision and noticed that the mantle I left behind meant that I was deprived of the protection and help of God. And since that time, I spent seven years wandering through the deserts, eating no bread, not going under a roof, not talking to people, until I saw my Lord, who returned the mantle to me, ”the Prologue says.

That's how scary it is to make a judgment about a person. Grace departed from the ascetic only because he said about his brother's behavior: "It's bad!" How many times a day, in thoughts or words, we give our merciless assessment to our neighbor! Each time forgetting the words of Christ: “Do not judge, lest you be judged” (Matt. 7: 1)! At the same time, in our souls, of course, we say to ourselves: "Oh, I would never have done anything like this!" And very often the Lord humbles us for our correction, in order to shame our pride and desire to condemn others.

There was a virgin in Jerusalem who spent six years in her cell, leading an ascetic life. She wore a hair shirt and renounced all earthly pleasures. But then the demon of vanity and pride aroused in her a desire to condemn other people. And the grace of God left her for her excessive pride, and she fell into fornication. This happened because she struggled not out of love for God, but for show, for the sake of vain glory. When she became drunk with the demon of pride, the holy angel, the guardian of chastity, left her.

Very often the Lord allows us to fall into precisely those sins for which we condemn our neighbors.

Our assessments of our neighbor are very incomplete and subjective, we not only cannot look into his soul, but also often do not know anything about him at all. Christ did not condemn obvious sinners, neither harlots, nor adulterers, because he knew that the earthly path of these people was not yet finished, and they could take the path of correction and virtue. Only the judgment after death brings the last line to everything that a person has done in life. We see how a person sins, but we do not know how he repents.

Once I returned from the cemetery, where I was invited to serve a requiem, and the woman who called me asked to bless her car. A friend of mine was present at the consecration. When the woman left in an already consecrated brand new foreign car, he threw the phrase: "Yes, it is not visible that she was very bother earning money for this car." Then I told him that this woman was in great grief, her son was killed not so long ago ... You can never judge the well-being of human life by looks.

Pride and schism

In our time, there have appeared many "scolders" (as the Apostle Jude calls them), who constantly find reasons for indignation with the church hierarchy. The Patriarch, you see, communicates too much with the secular authorities, the bishops are all completely infected with money-grubbing and simony, the priests also think only about income and drive around in Mercedes. Special newspapers and websites have appeared that specialize in denouncing the episcopate. Apparently, it seems to them that now the very times have come when "the hierarchs will not believe in the resurrection of Christ either." A complete decline of piety and church life, as it were.

What drives these people? Pride. Who gave them such a right to denounce bishops and priests, and what do these denunciations give? They only sow enmity, confusion and division in the hearts of Orthodox people, who, on the contrary, need to unite now.

There have been unworthy people among priests and bishops at all times, and not only in the 20th or 21st century. Let us turn to the "golden age" of Orthodoxy, the age of holiness and the flourishing of theology. The IV century gave such pillars of the Church as St. Basil the Great, Gregory of Nyssa, Gregory the Theologian, Athanasius of Alexandria, John Chrysostom and many, many others. And this is what St. John Chrysostom writes about this “golden age”: “What can be more lawless when people who are worthless and filled with many vices receive honor for what they should not allow them to cross the church threshold? .. Nowadays the leaders of the Church suffer from sins. ... The wicked, burdened with a thousand crimes, invaded the Church, the tax-farmers became abbots. " Many of the holy bishops of the 4th century, including St. John himself, were sent into exile by "robber councils" of hierarchs, and some died in it. But none of them ever called for split and division. I am sure that many thousands of people would follow the deposed saints if they wanted to create their own "alternative church". But the holy men knew that the sin of schism and division is not washed away even by martyr's blood.

This is not what modern accusers do, they prefer schism to subordination to the hierarchy, this immediately shows that they are driven by the same pride. It is at the heart of any schism. How many schismatic, catacomb churches appear now, calling themselves Orthodox! "The true Orthodox Church", "the most true Orthodox Church", "the most, the most true", etc. And each of these pseudo-churches considers itself to be better, cleaner, holier than all the others by pride. The same passion of pride moved and moves the Old Believers. They split into a huge number of Old Believer "churches", interpretations, agreements that have no communication with each other. As St. Theophan the Recluse wrote: "Hundreds of stupid talk and thousands of dissenting agreements." This is the path of all schismatics and heretics. By the way, all the Old Believers are based not at all on love for the old rite, but on pride and a high opinion of their exclusivity and correctness and hatred of Patriarch Nikon and his followers - the Nikonians.

But let's say a little more about the "scolders", they should remember the words of St. Cyprian of Carthage: "To whom the Church is not a mother, to him God is not a Father." The Church was, is and will be, despite the unworthiness of some hierarchs, who have been, as I have already said, in all ages and times. They will be judged by God, not by us. The Lord says, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay” (Rom. 12:19). And we can correct the Church with only one thing - our personal piety. After all, we are also the Church. “Save yourself - and thousands around you will be saved,” said the Monk Seraphim of Sarov. And he learned this from his own spiritual experience. These are the people who are the little leaven that leavens the whole dough. A small amount of yeast can raise a whole sourdough. But, by the way, according to my own observations, the “scolders” with personal piety and morality, as a rule, have a hard time. But pride is rife.

Seduction

One of the worst and most difficult to treat types of pride is charm.

Delight means seduction. The devil seduces a person, taking the form of an angel of Light, saints, the Mother of God and even Christ Himself. The deceived person is given the greatest spiritual experiences from Satan, he can perform feats, even miracles, but all this is captivity by demonic powers. And at the heart of this is pride. A person became proud of his spiritual labors, doing, he did them out of vanity, pride, often for show, without humility, and thereby opened his soul to the action of hostile forces.

Saint Ignatius (Brianchaninov) in his "Fatherland" gives an example of what terrible consequences charm can lead to: “They said about a certain brother that he lived as a hermit in the wilderness and for many years was deceived by demons, thinking that they were angels. From time to time his father in the flesh came to him. Once the father, going to his son, took an ax with him with the intention of chopping wood for himself on the way back. One of the demons, warning the coming of his father, appeared to his son and said to him: “Behold, the devil is coming to you in the likeness of your father with the aim of killing you, he has an ax with him. You warn him, rip out the ax and kill ”. The father came, according to custom, and the son, grabbing an ax, stabbed him and killed him. " It is very difficult to bring a person who has fallen into delusion from this state, but there have been such cases. As, for example, with the Monk Nikita of Kiev-Pechersk. Falling into delusion, he was able to predict some events, he memorized the entire Old Testament. But after the intense prayer of the monks of the Kiev Caves elders, the devil departed from him. After that, he forgot everything he knew from the books, and the fathers barely taught him to read and write.

Cases of demonic deception are found in our days. A young man studied with me at the seminary, who prayed and fasted very hard, but, apparently, with a wrong, intransigent disposition of his soul. Students began to notice that he was sitting for books all day. Everyone thought that he was reading the holy fathers. It turned out that he studied books on Islam and the occult. He stopped confessing and receiving communion. Unfortunately, it was not possible to bring him out of this state, and soon he was expelled.

The sin of pride, sometimes starting with petty vanity and pride, can grow to a terrible spiritual illness. That is why the holy fathers called this passion the most dangerous and greatest of the passions.

Swearing with pride

How do they fight with pride, contempt of neighbors, self-exaltation? What can you oppose to this passion?

The Holy Fathers teach that the opposite virtue to pride is love. The most b O the greatest of passions fights with the highest virtue.

How to acquire love for your neighbor?

As they say, it is easy to love all of humanity, but it is very difficult to love a particular person with all his shortcomings and weaknesses. When the Lord was asked: “What is the greatest commandment in the law?” He replied: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind: this is the first and greatest commandment; the second is like it: you shall love your neighbor as yourself ”(Matthew 22: 37–39).

Love is a great feeling that brings us together with God, for "God is love." Love is the only happiness, it can help us overcome all difficulties and defeat pride and selfishness. But not everyone understands correctly what love is. Love is often mistaken for the pleasant feelings we get when we are treated well, but that is not love. “If you love those who love you, what good is it to you? Do not the tax collectors do the same? " (Matthew 5:46). It is very easy and pleasant to love a person, to be near him when he only makes us happy. But when communication with a neighbor does not suit us with something, we immediately change our attitude towards him, often to the diametrically opposite: "from love to hate, one step." But this means that we did not love real love, our love for our neighbor was consumer love. We liked those pleasant sensations that were associated with him, and when they disappeared, love disappeared. It turns out that we loved a person as a thing that we need. Not even as a thing, but as a product, delicious food, because we still take care of our favorite thing, for example, we polish the body of our favorite car, regularly service it, buy all kinds of jewelry, etc. That is, even in a thing, if we love it, we put our care and attention. And we love only food for its taste, no more; when it is eaten, we no longer need it. So true love gives rather than requiring. And this is the real joy of love. The joy of receiving something is material, consumer joy, and in giving to someone it is true, eternal.

Love is service. In this, our Lord Jesus Christ Himself gives us a great example, when He washed the feet of the apostles at the Last Supper, saying: “So, if I, the Lord and Teacher, washed your feet, then you must also wash each other's feet. For I have given you an example so that you also do the same that I have done to you ”(John 13: 14-15). And Christ loves us for nothing (because there is nothing to love us especially for), but simply because we are His children. Let the sinful, disobedient, spiritually sick, but it is the sick, weak child that parents love most of all.

The feeling of love cannot exist without our efforts. He needs to be educated in his heart, warmed up day after day. Love is a conscious decision: "I want to love." And we need to do everything so that this feeling does not go out, otherwise our feeling will not last long, it will depend on many random reasons: emotions, our mood, life circumstances, behavior of a neighbor, etc. It is impossible to fulfill the words of Christ in another way, because we are commanded to love not only our loved ones - parents, spouses, children, but also to all people. Love is acquired by daily work, but the reward for this work is great, for nothing on earth can be higher than this feeling. But in the beginning, we have to literally force ourselves to love. For example, you come home tired, do not wait for something pleasant to you, help yourself, wash, say, the dishes. A bad mood overcame - poke yourself, smile, say an affectionate word, do not take off your irritation on others. If you take offense at a person, you consider him wrong, yourself innocent - force yourself, show love and be the first to go to reconcile. And pride is defeated. But here it is very important not to become proud of your “humility”. So, educating himself day after day, a person will someday come to the point that he will no longer be able to live differently: he will have an inner need to give his love, to share it.

A very important point in love is to see the value of each person, because everyone has something good, you just need to change your often prejudiced attitude. Only by cultivating in our hearts love for our neighbor, changing our attitude towards him, learning to see the good sides in him, will we, step by step, conquer pride and exaltation in ourselves. Love conquers pride, for pride is a lack of love for God and people.

How can you learn to love God? Having fallen in love with His creation - a man. Man is the image of God, and it is impossible to love the Archetype even without love, to disrespect the icon, the image of God. It is not for nothing that the Apostle John the Theologian writes to us: “Whoever says,“ I love God, ”but hates his brother is a liar: for he who does not love his brother whom he sees, how can he love God, whom he does not see? And we have from Him such a commandment that he who loves God should love his brother also ”(1 John 4:20).

Instead of the conclusion: "The Kingdom of Heaven is taken by force"

The path of struggle with passions is not easy and thorny, we often fatigue, fall, suffer defeat, sometimes it seems that there is no more strength, but we get up again and begin to fight. Because this path is the only one for an Orthodox Christian. “No one can serve two masters: for either he will hate one, and love the other; or he will be zealous for one, but neglect of the other ”(Matthew 6: 24). It is impossible to serve God and remain a slave to passions.

Of course, no serious business is done quickly and easily. Whether we are rebuilding a temple, building a house, raising a child, or treating a seriously ill person - very great efforts are always required. “The kingdom of heaven is taken by force, and those who use force will take it away” (Matthew 11:12). And the acquisition of the Kingdom of Heaven is impossible without cleansing oneself from sins and passions. In the Slavic translation of the Gospel (always more accurate, figurative), instead of the verb "taken" is used the word "bothers". Indeed, spiritual work requires not just the application of effort, but coercion, compulsion, overcoming oneself.

A person who fights against the passions and conquers them is married for this from the Lord. Once the Monk Seraphim of Sarov was asked: "Who in our monastery stands above all before God?" And the monk replied that he was a cook from the monastery kitchen, by descent from former soldiers. The elder also said: “The character of this cook is by nature fiery. He is ready to kill a person in passion, but his incessant struggle within the soul attracts to him the great favor of God. For the struggle he is given from above the grace-filled power of the Holy Spirit, for God's word is immutable, which says: "To him who overcomes (myself) I will give a place to sit with myself and clothe him in white clothes." And, on the contrary, if a person does not struggle with himself, then he comes to a terrible bitterness, which leads to certain death and despair. "

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Pride is a quality of a person that is formed as a result of excessive pride in an individual. She is identified with arrogance, selfishness and conceit. A proud person believes that he is superior to others in anything, in work, clothes, in tastes, in the general way of life. In addition, he often has no compelling reason to treat others unfairly and humiliate them, so pride often carries an element of lies. To understand what pride is, you can turn to religion.

Pride in many religions refers to mortal sins, because a person tries to rise almost to the level of God, while humiliating others, walking on their heads.

Human pride is a destructive feeling that poisons the soul. Nobody relies on such a person in a personal matter, they do not want to share their achievements with him. Nobody wants to talk about personal problems or joys; in one case or another, a proud person will show an inadequate and unfriendly reaction. If a person comes to him with a personal problem, he will not be compassionate, he will amuse himself with the fact that people are such losers, although everything is not much better for him. Such a person is a priori incapable of. And if a person comes with some success, he will stumble upon a wall of misunderstanding and. A proud person often does not understand that he is making fatal mistakes in life. Showing his inattention to others, ingratitude and bragging, he alienates many people and makes enemies for himself. The desire of a person to be the only one in his environment who can be respected and loved leads to megalomania.

Pride and pride

Often people do not know what is the difference between the concepts of pride and pride. Through a similar sound, they are identified, but there are differences between the concepts of pride and pride, which must be known for the competent use of these two different concepts.

Pride and pride of distinction. The first thing that needs to be said is the difference between pride and pride - it is emotional coloring.

Pride is always a negative feeling. It is negative because it does not have a positive product, it is fraught with only negative results in all human relations.

Pride is a concept colored by positive emotions. This is sincere joy for yourself, for your successes, without a share of arrogance and self-elevation above others. Pride motivates you to set big goals and achieve them, and pride is fixated on one thing, not giving you the opportunity to develop.

Pride is always only a positive attitude towards oneself, one's personal values ​​and disrespect for the values ​​of other people.

A proud person treats other individuals fairly, respects their values ​​and rules, shows empathy and sincere joy for their achievements, is able to express support at the right time. People like to communicate with such a person, come to him for advice or just have a conversation. A proud person is guided by the rule of honor, pride in itself does not have an ounce of this feeling. Pride in oneself, the country, compatriots - these feelings are caused by sincere joy, and makes a person happy, this defines him as collectively directed. A proud person is always personally focused only on himself, he is incapable of collective joy, he can feel envy, contempt, and disgust towards the group. Therefore, a proud person rarely belongs to any social groupings. Wise people sympathize with such a person, sincerely pity him, because they see what he is doing with his life and where he is heading in his attitude towards other people. But they know that the time will come when he will be cured of this unfortunate feeling.

Proud people always have a sense of confidence through relying on their dignity, they know that they can rely on themselves, they know their worth, because this is confirmed by true facts. The proud, in most cases, have nothing to look back on in their past in order to feel pride in actions that would also be recognized by other people. A proud person knows his own worth, has dignity and knows the value of his actions, he is invulnerable.

A proud person, showing himself to all sides, can be very vulnerable inwardly. In a problem situation, such a person begins outwardly to say that he is strong and will cope with all life barriers, but in fact, being alone with his thoughts, he understands how scared he is and he needs support and, not an ounce of exponential confidence does not remain in him, because he still knows the value of his abilities.

Pride and pride what is the difference? If you think about what else distinguishes pride from pride, then we can say that a proud person, positively directed towards others and their achievements. A person endowed with pride is more capable than others to be truly happy for others if they have achieved something, because she herself knows well the value of these successes. Often such a person is looked at with admiration, and they are ready to be equal to her. A person who has an excess of pride will never become a motivator for others, they will not be equal to him mainly due to the lack of honor and justice in him.

Signs of pride

To define the concept of pride, what it is, what are its signs, you do not need to be a particularly observant person. A proud person has an unshakable conviction that all people around are wrong and constantly make mistakes, and they try to plant their false, as he believes, beliefs. And only his point of view can be correct and truthful, and everyone around him must adapt to it. He believes that if the opinion of others is wrong, then they themselves are unreasonable people, it follows from this that if it is so that all others are unreasonable, then I am the smartest. And then there comes a moment of jubilation, he accuses others of stupidity, although he himself does not see what is really happening, that he, with his boasting, looks stupid and narrow-minded.

A proud person creates a conventional hierarchical structure for the people around him, by which they are judged. At the top of this structure, of course, he himself is, and no one will ever stand on the same level with him at the same time. And all the others are much lower than it, are located according to certain criteria. It happens that such a person needs the help of others, in return he can offer his help, but such help is insincere. One cannot count on a disinterested act on his part. By helping someone, this person emphasizes his importance in the faces of other people.

Signs of pride in a person. A proud person often repeats that the world is nothing without him and other people cannot be complete without his society. Such an overestimated self-esteem, focus on one's own person is a sure sign of pride, and the more a person thinks that no one can cope without him, the more he pushes everyone away from himself. He tries to attract all the attention to himself, so that in all conversations it was only about his person. He does this with the help of material objects (car, house), or, by doing shocking deeds, the main thing is to be heard by everyone after that.

A proud person tries to be independent in business, so that in case of successful activity he can reap the laurels himself. But it happens that he cannot do without the help of others, then with difficulty, stepping over the internal prohibitions, a person asks for help. But he does it in such a way so that later he does not have any ties with this person and does not owe him anything.

A proud person always gives advice to everyone to the left and to the right, even when it is not required. When giving advice, he wants to be followed without fail and without fail, thereby strengthening his authority and superiority. By giving instructions to others how to live and act, a person fulfills his management needs. He believes that he has a lot of life experience and can teach everyone how to live correctly. It is this trait that most annoys everyone around, because everyone has their own head on their shoulders and does not always need advice.

Hyperresponsibility is also a sign of pride. Such individuals are firmly convinced that everything that happens is their merit, and they are trying to show how much is laid on their shoulders. They remind all the time that everything goes smoothly only because they themselves are trying. They take on all the worries and believe that they are doing the right thing, but often no one needs such hyperresponsibility on their part.

People who have pride present themselves as a suffering person through their cares. They exaggerate their capabilities too much, then they complain about fate, and about other people, how irresponsible they are and how they can live peacefully for themselves while he is such an unfortunate person carrying his suffering cross.

A proud person always condemns the actions of others. Emu thinks that everyone is doing the wrong thing and does not even think that this is not even his business. And he never misses the opportunity to point out to people their wrong actions, to show that they could have done differently. Such a person ignores any advice, because he believes that people are trying to guide him.

People with an inherent pride consider themselves the smartest, but others can attribute diagnoses, label and call names, considering it normal. All people owe them something. They expect their whims to be fulfilled even before they have voiced them.

Proud individuals are incapable of sincere gratitude. If they think they should thank the person, they do it in a very dry manner. Because they believe that to be grateful means to a certain extent to be dependent on someone, and therefore to be below him. There is a cliché in their heads that those who ask for something are inferior, helpless individuals. If they were given a service, then they perceive it so that it should be so, that they should always be provided with services, especially unselfish ones.

Proud people are often guided by the “come, see, conquer” rule. Their appearance in the company often looks like a performance on stage. The person came to the company, walked according to a rehearsed scenario, criticized, offended, turned around and went on. And what she left behind in the hearts of people does not bypass her.

Sometimes, the concepts of pride and vanity are used in the same vein. Vanity, just like pride, has the ability to develop into megalomania. Vanity gives a person the illusion of his own superiority. Such people are confident in their genius, beauty, they are very complacent. Although often there is no superiority, on the contrary, there is spiritual baseness. A person does not see how his sense of dignity turns into a feeling of insignificance. The desire to be higher than others is baseness, because the use of people for selfish personal purposes cannot be positive. Proud people are energy vampires, they feed on the energy of other people, their experiences. Proud people look for that weak point in a person, for which they can prick, cause suffering, resentment, and then they themselves remain in a good mood, such actions are very low, insignificant.

Pride and vanity equally lead to unhappiness and isolation from the world.

How to get rid of pride

As experienced people say: "everything will pass, and that too." This rule also applies when a proud person comes to the realization of his actions, realistically evaluates them and sincerely says that he wants to change, and looks for ways to deal with pride. A person who has lived for a long time in his own illusory world, where he was a king and a god, cannot immediately rebuild himself, he needs the help of others so that the process of getting rid of pride is effective and not so difficult.

There are several ways to get rid of pride. To begin with, a person needs to understand that he is proud, not proud, often people confuse these concepts and misinterpret them in their behavior. After realizing the difference between pride and pride, a person should look for vices in himself and think about how to eradicate them. Many people think that this is very easy to do, as if you can understand everything in one moment and not do this anymore. Very few people can really do this and change in an instant, but this requires a very strong will and a strong character so that even thoughts of self-pity cannot arise.

A person needs to clearly understand the world and himself in it, to understand his true place. See the real world and people, throw away all your prejudices about them, stop criticizing, discussing other people and accept the fact that someone can actually be much better than him. The main thing is how it is, with all its oddities, pros and cons. Stop wasting your energy on intrigue around you. Learn not only to accept help from other people, but also to give something in return, maintaining a balance in the nature of relationships.

To get rid of pride, a person needs to reflect on what benefit he can give people. Each person has a purpose, it must be found. You need to carefully analyze yourself, come to self-knowledge, understand what inclinations there are, and then act in a certain area of ​​occupation and improve yourself in this area. When a person learns to spend his life energy correctly, then he will come to harmony with himself and with the world.

Opposite to pride are qualities such as humility, gratitude, honesty, philanthropy, hard work. If a person purposefully works on their development, he will be able to overcome all his vices.

If the techniques of internal conversation are used together with behavioral ones, then the result will be much greater and you will get rid of pride faster.

How to get rid of pride and arrogance?

One of these techniques is the performance of work that a person considers low, dirty and unworthy of him. Engaging in humiliating work, but such that some people do every day, for example, work as a nurse, dishwasher, cleaner, the system is scrapped in the mind of a person. Doing this work several times, a person changes himself, he becomes more mundane, the feeling of superiority decreases.

How to get rid of pride in Orthodoxy. Bowing will help a person get rid of pride. Bow, as a physical action, but with a deep meaning inherent in it. When a person bows, he bends down, lowers his head in front of something. Worship is an expression of respect, reverence, humility, and acceptance. The more often a person bows, the faster he gets used to the fact that he recognizes others, worshiping their persons as a sign of gratitude, or respect. Also, a person should bow in prayer, purify his heart and thoughts.

A proud person needs to learn to carefully perceive the interlocutor, delve into what he is talking about and understand what emotions he has, accept his experiences, and show empathy. Having learned to listen to other people, their problems, their experiences, a person changes his attitude towards them, he realizes that in fact he was mistaken in a person and he himself attributed other qualities to him.

To eradicate pride, you need to learn to thank people from a pure heart. It doesn't matter if it's friendly help or advising a salesperson in a store, everyone should be thanked. Each person tries, spends his time and energy, and his work should be appreciated, and a sincere "thank you" will not take much time.

It is very difficult for a proud person to accept other people for who they are. He will either criticize them, or he himself will come up with a story of their life for them and spread rumors. But such a person must come to terms with the fact that not all people are the same, each has its own characteristics and the world is built on this. And no one has the right to remake another person for himself.

All of the above methods of how to deal with pride are effective if a person really realized that it was time for him to change, accepted his vices and is ready to correct himself.

Speaker of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"

In each capacity, people try to discern the useful and harmful sides for themselves. The quality of pride raises many questions. Is it good? Why should people be proud, but when they show pride in themselves, it causes resentment? How to get rid of pride?

There is a big difference between pride and pride. Pride is when you over-admire yourself or another person. And pride is the opinion that your life is the most correct, and the lifestyles of those around you are wrong.

What is pride? This is when you think that other people are wrong, live meaninglessly, the world cannot exist without you, and only you know how to live with meaning and save the world.

A proud person perceives himself to be all-knowing, able to do everything, not needing help, but capable of saving everyone and everything. The heroes, who are often illustrated in fairy tales and science fiction films, are proud people. The plot of the story unfolds in such a way that the heroes begin to think that only they are capable of saving everyone. Other people become weak, weak, helpless. In real life, this is expressed in the desire to help everyone and everywhere. A person believes on a subconscious level that people cannot cope without him. You can try to dissuade him from helping. He will answer you: “You do not understand anything. I see that they need help. That's it, I went to help them! "

A proud person often goes to help everyone and everything. Absolutely all people seem to be in need of help in the eyes of such a person. And this happens due to the thoughts that only he knows how to do it right, how it should be and how it should be. Of course, a proud person considers himself always and in everything right. Only he lives right, and the rest sin, so they need help, moral admonitions and additional education so that they understand how it should be.

The commandment, which is violated by proud people, sounds like this: "Live and let others live!" They themselves cannot live harmoniously and happily, and they try to create the same living conditions for others.

What is pride?

If people have a positive attitude to pride, then pride is perceived negatively. What is pride? This is a person's excessive pride in himself. It is accompanied by arrogance, conceit and selfishness.

A proud person is not loved for one good reason - he exalts himself above others. He considers himself more knowledgeable, beautiful, successful, skillful than other people. He believes that he is better versed in life, tastes, clothes, politics, etc. Often, pride manifests itself unreasonably, that is, without a good reason for its existence. A person is proud of something that does not exist, not noticing the real state of affairs. At the same time, he unreasonably humiliates others, which, of course, does not like.

In religion, pride is referred to as one of the deadly sins. This quality is seen as a person's desire to rise to the level of God, to become above and more important than other people.

A proud person often exhibits megalomaniac qualities. I don't want to ask him for help. I don't want to open up to him. He has no desire to talk about his problems. It all lies in the fact that a proud person is not prone to empathy. If you tell him about your problems, then he will enjoy it. He will begin to indicate that he is doing well, and those who came to him are losers, losers.

It is unpleasant to communicate with a proud person, because he is looking for any ways to rise again at the expense of other people's troubles.

What is a proud person? He is usually represented with a proudly raised nose and a protruding chin, they say, "I'm always right." So it is: such a person always considers himself to be right, because he thinks that he knows everything.

An omniscient person is a proud person. Even spiritual people recognize the fact that they may not know something, although it is to them that those around them turn to know their soul. A proud person believes that he knows everything, respectively, when someone proves him wrong, he defends himself. It is difficult for him to admit the fact that he may not know something. Therefore, arguing with a proud person is a waste of time. It will be easier not to argue than just ruin your nerves and mood.

The favorite phrase of proud people is: "I told you so!" He once again wishes to prove to himself and others that he knows everything. And how else can this be done better, if you do not show by the example of what he said, then it came true. When a proud person turns out to be right, he considers it a sign: "Look, I was right!" When such incidents happen to other people, he considers it a coincidence, luck, or accident. Here again one can trace the desire of a person to be always and in everything right, best and all-knowing.

But where does this pride come from? What are the root motives for becoming proud? Everything is based on a simple desire to be needed and important to other people. Anyone who possesses knowledge is considered an important and necessary person. That is why a proud person directs all his strength to prove to others that he knows everything. He is focused on status, namely, to feel important and needed by other people.

Naturally, one can assume that a proud person is one who, in childhood, went through a stage when he felt unnecessary to his parents. Having experienced such a state, a person programs himself to always be important and necessary to everyone. How will he achieve this? In all available ways. He will observe others and note that people are attracted to each other. After that, it is these aspects of the personality that he will develop in himself (at best) or simply seem to be an "attractive" person (that is, in fact, not to be such inside).

Pride and pride - what's the difference?

Pride and pride have the same root words. Often, because of this, people think that these are absolutely similar concepts. In fact, there is a difference between them. The article examines it in detail so that people understand when they show pride (which is good), and when pride (which is considered a mortal sin). What is the difference?

Emotional color is one of the characteristic differences. Pride is tinged with negative emotions, since they are aimed at raising oneself at the expense of humiliating others. Hatred, rejection, disrespect towards other people are manifested, which are negative emotions.

Pride, on the other hand, has a positive emotional tint, since we are talking about joy for one's own or others' achievements, which are available in the real world. A person does not elevate or humiliate, but simply rejoices for the achievements that were made personally by him or by other people.

Proud and proud people are different. Pride makes you show a sense of justice, compassion, collectivism, and patriotism. Pride makes you show envy, hatred, disrespect and contempt, disgust for others. A proud person is always focused on truth and justice. You can contact him to give an honest answer. This cannot be seen behind a proud individual who is focused only on himself. He loves only himself, while hating others.

Another difference between pride and pride is achievement. Pride manifests itself in a person who has actually achieved something. He knows what he is capable of, is proud of his achievements, has a real experience of positive results. Pride is based on myths and illusions. The achievements that the proud person talks about are not real. Looking back in time, there are no real stories that would confirm the words of a person.

Pride is self-reliance and strength. Pride is vulnerability.

The most notable difference between these qualities is focus on other people. Pride is manifested in the fact that a person is ready to rejoice for the success of others. He's really happy that other people are good at something. Pride does not allow a person to be happy for those around him. On the contrary, he envies them if they achieve more than he does.

Signs of pride

Is it possible to recognize a proud person? In fact, it will not be difficult. Pride is manifested in the fact that a person considers himself the only right. He perceives the opinions of others as wrong, stupid, erroneous. Everyone is wrong except himself. And if so, then the people around are stupid. He constantly tells people that they are stupid, which is a clear sign of pride.

In the head of a proud person there is a hierarchy, at the top of which he himself is. Other people are always below him. Who will be at what stage depends on the criteria by which he evaluates them. He will not put anyone on a par with himself.

A proud person can help other people, but she will never be disinterested. If such an individual has helped, then he will definitely demand a return. At the same time, helping others, he once again proves what is important and necessary for those around him.

Can such a person ask for help? Maybe, but only as a last resort. Usually he tries to achieve everything himself, so that, if successful, reap the benefits alone. However, if he is unable to do without the help of people, he is ready to ask for it, stepping over himself. He will do this in such a way that in the end he does not remain in debt and does not feel that he was helped.

A proud person believes that the world will collapse without him, and people simply will not survive without his help. He knows everything and can do everything, so people should turn to him for help, advice, support. However, such an individual often needs help and support himself, which he himself never admits.

A proud person gives advice to the right and to the left, even when they are not asked about them. At the same time, he expects that other people will use them one hundred percent and unconditionally. This will further strengthen its authority and importance. Pride does not allow you to recognize the fact that others have their heads on their shoulders and are able to have their own correct opinion.

A proud person is distinguished by the fact that he tries to take on the worries and affairs. He tries to keep up everywhere, to cope with all matters, because he believes that nothing will happen without him. He strains, spends all his energy and time, and when he does not achieve the desired results or does not receive approval from others, he begins to blame people for all the troubles. He did everything from his side (even if he was not asked about it), and fate is so ungrateful ...

A proud person ascribes successes exclusively to himself, and troubles, failures - to those around him. He condemns the actions of other people who do not act the way he wants. At the same time, he is not able to accept advice from people, since in this case he begins to perceive them as an attempt to control him.

A proud person likes to label other people, considering himself the smartest. He believes that everyone owes him, any of his whims should be fulfilled even before he spoke about them.

How to get rid of pride?

Noticing the signs of pride, a person is already one step closer to healing. Pride is often hidden, preventing a person from recognizing it. However, if every proud person sees that he is showing pride, he will already be half healed. How to get rid of pride?

The technique of accepting others as they are becomes important. It is suitable not only for proud people, but also for people with other negative qualities. To accept people as they are, to consider their right to be themselves, and not as they want to be, to realize that they are right - all this also helps in getting rid of pride.

Outcome

Pride and pride are different concepts, despite the fact that they are based on the same feeling. Pride is about real achievement. Pride is based on illusions in the head of a person. Understanding the difference between these concepts, you can come to a conclusion - do you need to change yourself or not?

There is nothing wrong with pride. It is a positive reaction of a person to the fact that good results have been achieved. At the same time, it becomes unimportant who achieved them. Pride arises both for oneself and for other people.

Pride is often combined with vanity, when a person tries to rise above others, while rarely relying on real achievements, skills and knowledge. It seems to a person that the world cannot exist without him, therefore all his actions are obsessive, unpleasant and repulsive.

If you do not get rid of pride, then you can be left alone, which will be an unfavorable prognosis. And healing comes when a person himself admits and decides that he wants to change.

Pride and the reasons for the formation of this personality defect. The article provides practical advice on how to get rid of the problem yourself with accompanying recommendations from specialists.

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Pride is the overconfidence, arrogance, and arrogance of a person who puts himself one step above the rest. With this vice, a person quite often considers himself undeservedly offended, worries if his talents are not extolled, he himself often behaves in a boorish way with others. Even the Bible condemns pride, referring it to the seven deadly sins. An overestimated ego in most cases makes it difficult to adequately assess the existing reality, therefore it is necessary to get rid of such an attitude towards oneself and society.

The main reasons for the development of pride

The formation of arrogance and arrogance is usually based on the following factors:

• Wrong parenting model... Some parents from childhood instill in their children that they are better in all respects than their peers. As a result, the child grows up to be an egoist, who already at a more mature age begins to consider himself a celestial.
• Luck in everything... There is such a category of people whom Fortune loves. A person begins to take good luck in life for granted, attributing it to his exceptional abilities and eventually becoming an arrogant person.
• Possessing a striking appearance... Beautiful people are quite often frankly proud of their outstanding appearance. And they do not miss the opportunity to get maximum benefits, as well as emphasize their superiority over the rest. In especially difficult cases, they exalt themselves so much that they almost completely lose touch with others, since they are not able to withstand an arrogant attitude and narcissism.
• Activation of the protective mechanism... Low self-esteem can also lead to ostentatious pride, as with good looks. Fearing to be ridiculed, a person with complexes begins to demonstrate their "unique" mental abilities and put themselves above ordinary people.
• Living in megacities... Some snobs, having their homes in large cities, openly make it clear to the provincials that they are second-class people for them. Arrogant persons demonstrate their superiority in front of them, even without sometimes having education and prestigious work.
• Aristocratic roots... Pride often stems from this factor. The well-known expressions "blue blood" and "white bone" in themselves indicate that some people consider themselves the elite of society.

Important! Whatever the origins of the formation of pride, it is rather difficult to call such people pleasant persons. They have practically no friends, because few people like the dismissive attitude towards themselves.

Manifestations of pride in humans

It is not difficult to calculate people with the described character warehouse, because they behave defiantly and in some cases even aggressively:

1. Ignoring someone else's opinion... Reflections of relatives and strangers are not just not listened to, but initially refuted by arrogant people. For people with pride, there are no authorities other than the point of view of their own person.
2. Striving to be the first... You can even say that a person with such a character does not try to seem the best of the best, but considers himself to be such. Rivalry arises only if the same proud person stands in his way.
3. Unreasonable criticism of people... The imperfection of each and every one is quite clearly formulated by a person with an informal model of behavior. The illusion of greatness leads him ultimately to cruelty and a complete lack of tact when communicating with the interlocutor.
4. Selfishness... Proud people usually go to extremes, considering themselves either the center of the Universe, or possessing many hidden complexes. At the first problem, it is very difficult to maintain contact with such a person, because in order to satisfy his own needs, he is able to commit unworthy acts.
5. Desire to lead everyone... Considering even the closest environment to be small people, persons with signs of pride try to become leaders in any team. Power in this case goes beyond all the boundaries of permissible moral norms, causing discontent among the most peaceful persons who are faced with such an attitude towards themselves.
6. Inability to be grateful... Proud people take signs of attention to their person for granted. Dividing people into statuses and categories, they do not consider themselves to be obliged to anyone due to their ranking in a lower rank in society.
7. Vanity... When an individual has such a quality as pride, he cannot calmly observe happy and successful people. Consequently, persons with a nasty and arrogant character will try to assert themselves at the expense of others in all spheres of human activity.
8. Boasting... To show off in front of a large audience is the hallmark of the proud. Many of their stories about life, love affairs and rapid career growth actually turn out to be a banal lie or an indisputable embellishment of facts.
9. Pathos... If a person has pride, all his speeches will be filled with magnificent phrases and complex terms. With such a demonstration of intelligence and erudition, they try to show their education, focusing on the fact that it was received in a well-known and prestigious educational institution.

Ways to combat self-pride

Psychologists argue that such a defect over time can lead to a complete degradation of the personality. Therefore, it is necessary to seriously think about how to get rid of the existing problem.

Working on yourself while showing pride

A person cannot cope on his own only with those pathologies that seriously distort his vision of the world and his place in it. In other cases, the following ways of rehabilitating oneself as a person can be put on the agenda:

• Acknowledging that there is a problem... The first step towards realizing your dream of becoming a full member of society should be the decision to observe your own behavior from the outside. Pride is not an innate character trait, because with such a defect they are not born, but they form it in themselves during life.
• Analysis of your own ambitions... After admitting the existence of a certain problem, it is necessary to understand what exactly annoys a person in other people. You can limit communication with such individuals, without projecting their shortcomings on literally every person. However, in most cases, a detailed analysis shows that personal claims against most people are unfounded.
• Keeping a diary... It is recommended to divide it into two parts, which will describe the positive aspects of pride and the negative consequences of its appearance. After observing this pattern for a week, many people will be unpleasantly surprised by the comparison of both sections of the diary.
• Teaching humility... This quality helps a lot in life, because a person does not try to jump above his head. However, a proud man should not go to extremes and try to engage in self-flagellation instead of reflecting on his actions, while becoming a puppet in the hands of some unscrupulous personalities.
• Refusal to evaluate people... The closest circle of the obstinate and the people outside of him are not at all obliged to correspond to his criteria of morality and invented norms of behavior in society. In response to such a desire to change acquaintances or colleagues, he will receive exclusively a wave of negativity, which can be prevented by abstracting from other people's shortcomings.
• Courtesy training... Communication culture implies tolerance and a sense of tact in relation to the interlocutor. This rule should become a law for a person with a vice in the form of pride. You can also familiarize yourself with the works of Dale Carnegie "The Language of Success", "How to win people over" and "How to win friends."
• Work on self-realization... It is necessary not to suffer from megalomania, but in fact to work on yourself every day. Proud people often have a feeling of envy towards more successful people. They will not have such a negative outburst of emotions only if they themselves take place as individuals.
• Accepting constructive criticism... It is difficult not to respond to any insult with some kind of taunt, but with wise advice, you need to learn to listen to them. In some cases, someone else's experience is invaluable information. In addition, people are attracted to an interlocutor who knows how to listen and respects their opinion.
• Altruism... Confronting your own selfishness in this way will be an excellent way to combat pride. In addition, changes in behavior in this direction will allow you to expand your circle of contacts and make real friends.
• Doing dirty work... Some people, who consider themselves the elite of society, refuse any occupations that are unpleasant for them. If you want to get rid of pride, you can work in the garden or do a general cleaning of the house yourself. A new stage in life has come when it is necessary to forget about the old habits of the little haired woman.
• Refusing flatterer friends... Pride can appear even in a tolerant person, before whom hypocritical friends openly flatter. This is done both out of a desire to get closer to a person who is more popular in society, and for selfish purposes. Such communication will do nothing but harm, so it is necessary to stay away from insincere people.
• Using the Prayer of Repentance... This method of getting rid of pride will help believing parishioners. In addition, while reading it, the soul calms down, and all gloomy thoughts leave the consciousness. The words of the prayer can be arbitrary, provided that they come from the very heart.

Any of the proposed methods of eliminating pride in your soul is an accessible method for every person. The main thing in this case is to have the desire to correct the situation and establish contact with the people around.

Help from psychologists if you want to get rid of pride

In parallel with your own attempts to change your life for the better, you can put into practice the following advice from experts:

1. Mental bows method... This method is quite popular in Asian countries, which also have their own proud people. When meeting with even a person of lower status and wealth in the mind, it is necessary to bow to her. In this way, an act of respect will be performed that effectively combats the ambition of the arrogant person.
2. Projection method... If you have pride, you need to mentally imagine the internal dialogue of your friends. In a conversation with them, there were unambiguously some half hints of dissatisfaction with the behavior of the arrogant man. Thinking unflatteringly about other people, one should assume what opinion on their part they may have about the arrogant person.
3. Analysis-comparison... Antiheroes of all times and peoples have always been proud, even with their existing complexes. This list can start with Lucifer (Satan) and end with dictators who are responsible for the destruction of a huge number of people. A small percentage of patients after such a session with a psychotherapist with an accompanying thematic conversation will want to be like a person with negative energy.
4. The method of analysis of perishable glory... A minute of triumph at the expense of humiliating another person is not worth loneliness in the future after being condemned by the inner circle. When asked how to get rid of pride, one should make a virtual trip to the future in order to descend from heaven on earth and soberly assess your attitude towards people.
5. The principle of "the inside is equal to the outside"... Some factors from the outside must be changed in parallel with the correction of one's own "I". You can change the decor for a while, replacing it with a more modest apartment. It is also recommended to reconsider your diet, replacing expensive delicacies with cheaper healthy foods.
6. Group therapy... In some cases, experts recommend that proud people talk to people with the same problem. Someone else’s bitter experience is often better perceived than learning from our own mistakes. During such sessions, patients talk about themselves, recognizing the fact that they have arrogance and arrogance in their character.

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The question posed to oneself, how to deal with pride, already testifies to a person's desire to change his life and attitude towards other people. It remains only to heed the recommendations voiced in order to get rid of the existing problem of a personal nature once and for all.

Pride and pride are related words, but they have different meanings. Positive self-esteem, self-respect is called pride. You can be proud not only of your own successes and achievements. For example, you can feel pride for your son, for your country, team, parents, etc. What is the difference between pride and pride? Pride has a negative color and is considered the cause of all sins in different religions. A proud person is arrogant, has an unreasonably high self-esteem, and is unable to rejoice for the success of others.

Let's turn to the interpretation of words

Not knowing the lexical meaning of the words pride and pride, a person can invest in them a completely different, wrong meaning. But it's never too late to clarify the situation. Let's turn to 3 well-known explanatory dictionaries - S.I. Ozhegova, D.N. Ushakov and V.I. Dahl.

What is pride, Ozhegov's definition:

Definition of pride from Ushakov's dictionary:

1. "Distracted noun. to the proud (pride of step, character).
2. The character or behavior of a proud person (his pride did not allow him to forgive meanness).
3. What (the one who) are proud of (warships are the pride of Soviet shipbuilding) "

Now let's move on to the question of what pride is. The definition of this word in all dictionaries is the same, and is interpreted as "excessive pride, arrogance" by V.I. Dahl did not see the difference between pride and pride at all, and he defined both words as follows: “Pride, pride, pride is a quality, a property of the proud. To be proud, to be reputed to be stupid. Proud - arrogant, arrogant, arrogant; inflated; who puts himself above others "

Indeed, the line between pride and pride is very thin. Pride often grows into pride. Remarkably, it happens unnoticed. A proud person does not notice guilt or sin in himself. It really seems to him that he is better than others, more worthy, higher.

Where is the line?

Many try to eradicate pride in themselves, believing that this is the beginning of pride. However, they forget that there is a benefit from it. So, pride protects a person from harming himself and others, it is not allowed to slide to the bottom. A proud person will never stoop to theft, gossip, rudeness, immoral behavior. Synonyms characterize pride in the best possible way: honor, dignity, self-respect. In relation to someone, it can be replaced by the word joy. For example, "I am happy about my son's success."

Pride itself is not a sin, but it can lead to it very quickly. Take other passions, for example. Food can be used to satisfy hunger, or you can overeat, and then it will be a sin of gluttony; sexuality can be used to strengthen love with a husband (wife), or you can fall into the sin of fornication. In other words, excessive pride grows into sin - pride:

“Pride… Pride… they have the same root.

The shades in behavior are innumerable ...

And if in Pride vices are conquered,

Pride is unfamiliar with the word "honor."

Pride in the Bible

To answer the question of what pride is, let's turn to the Bible. God hates pride. The proud are so blinded by their pride that they think they do not need God, ascribe his merits to themselves and worship themselves. They stop seeing their flaws. Pride is the sin of the soul, in all Christian teachings it is considered mortal.

To understand how deeply a man possessed by pride falls, consider the story of Satan. Before his exile, he was one of the most beautiful and chosen angels. They called him the shining star and the son of the dawn. But his heart was proud of his beauty, and arrogance ruined wisdom. And God cast him to the ground as an unclean one. Pride was inherent in Adam and Eve. Imagining that they themselves would become gods, they ate the forbidden fruit and were punished. The synonym for proud in the Bible is sinful, unclean, godless, hypocrite.

“The one who is filled with pride does not know anything, but is only struck by a passion for arguments and verbiage. All of this gives rise to quarrels, angry speech, malicious suspicions. ”- 1 Timothy 6: 4.

Signs of pride

In order to finally understand the definition of pride, what it is and how it manifests itself, we propose to study its signs. We list only the most basic ones:

Proud people have other negative qualities as well. Pride breaks moral norms. A proud person can resort to hypocrisy, vanity, revenge, just to exalt himself even more. It is impossible to hide pride. Even if a person is silent, it is read in his cold arrogant gaze, gestures, head held high.

Pride for a woman

The preservation of chastity is traditionally considered a woman's pride. And it's not so much about virginity as about spiritual purity and prudence. Pride protects a woman from dubious connections and relationships. A proud woman does not tolerate disrespect, rudeness and rudeness, both in relation to herself and others.

Some understand under female pride impregnability: “a woman should not get acquainted first”, “a man should seek a woman, conquer her heart”. However, inaccessibility and coldness are more characteristic of pride. Only an arrogant person can indulge her vanity with the courtship of a man. A proud woman is simple and straightforward.

Author's opinion. Pride is the desire to rise above others. This desire is especially strong in people who consider themselves somewhat flawed and depend on the opinions of others. Pride comes from self-dislike, rejection.

“The boys at school used to tease me 'fat.' I dreamed of becoming petite and slender, like the other girls in the class, and I hated myself. When I grew up, I finally managed to lose weight. But this was not enough. I wanted to prove to everyone how wrong they were, that I am better than others. I won several beauty contests and quite imperceptibly for myself began to be arrogant towards plump rivals. I was incredibly proud of myself. This is probably why friendship with girls did not go well. Only after a few years I realized my mistake, fell in love with myself and became easier to relate to everything. Now my soul is light and pleasant "

Pride and pride are very similar, yet different qualities. To distinguish one from the other, it is enough to look a person in the eye. For a proud man, they will be cold, full of contempt and arrogance. The eyes of a proud person shine with joy, he is calm and not at all rude.

Snezhana, Taganrog