After all, they exist, these people, but few people like to like.

I remember, as I was surprised by an irritated post, nomaded at the same time on social networks. I wrote one very well-known media person, a popular blogger, a talented girl (I quote around memory):

"I am watching the Internet for one ideal woman and I can not get rid of the thought that it is a dull schmuck. That's all in her life right, everything is turned out, in everything she is sure, everything achieved or achieved, she knows how to forgive and does not know how to hate, and her house is beautiful, and the family is an exemplary and a dog better than all other dogs.

That's it all good, and evil she does not do anyone, and I hate her and read me about her perfect life unpleasant, because she is all lying. "

I confess: if not a dog, I would take this post to my account. Because according to the criteria, my life is ideal.

Only instead of the perfect dog - nonideal cats, which I periodically beat the satellum, and this is at least a little saves me from the fate of something there.

Get not only perfect. They say, you can be satisfied every day, only if you are under the influence of marijuana. They also say that to enjoy life every day - this gives the border state of the psyche.

Also they write that positive thinking is a solid lies, and people who profess such thinking, stretched smile and dead eyes.

I think, the opponents of positive thinking, the joy of every day and other idealities fall into the same trap, in which I get to: they take each ideal and positive person to their account.

Like, if he is so perfect - what prevents to be perfect for me? Either I'm driving somewhere, or the perfect person is lying. It is easier to believe, of course, in the last one.

Where does he hide from the feeling of non-coming guilt before those who have the difficulties of the car and a small trolley? Because it turns out if you have no difficulties - you and the rights to the joy of life do not have especially.

Why is it so it turns out that we often have any thought made at your own expense? The stamping of positivists is only because they do not know how to be positive, we simulate a dull FMOM only because they themselves did not work out.

We also consider ourselves, thereby dull, if the life circumstances of some unfamiliar understand who are partially coincided with our ...

Or maybe they really do not exist, ideal people?

Velvet: Anna Severinets

It is believed that in this world you need to be best absolutely in everything. Do everything perfectly, do not make mistakes and look impeccable. But this is the path to defeat and misfortune. Non-ideal people more often achieve success and at the same time are happier.

We strive for ideality in everything. It is good to learn, do not make any mistakes, work late, build an ideal relationship, to raise a child of the Wunderkind, look like an athlete or model. We exhibit yourself the highest bar, and then suffer from your perfectionism. The desire to achieve the best result in any business makes a man weaker, unhappy and sad.

Best the enemy of the good. We hear this proverb from childhood, but we do not often think about how uda is. William Shakespeare, in the tragedy "King Lire", also wrote: "In an effort to the better, we often go good." With excessive diligence, we often go to the fact that it was already good.

The desire for ideality ruins our lives. Either perfect or bad? A permanent race for the ideal result takes all the time, takes all the forces, distracts from the main thing, prevents achieving other goals and makes unhappy.

1. Imidelessness and communications with others

Many people are trying to behave perfectly with others, but they have few friends, they are not popular and often lonely. It's like honors in school. The ideality is boring and gives cold. The best friends and pleasures have a bunch of flaws. They are spoiled, make mistakes and are far from similar to the perfect person. But they are like others. We are attracted by people who seek to be themselves, and not an artificial pattern. It's nice to have fun with them, doing stupidity and be friends.

2. Imidelessness is better for relationships and love

There are girls who are watching their appearance and try to become perfect models from the glossy magazine. They are limited to appearance and behavior. The girls who tried to become perfect, clamped, have a bunch of complexes and are not at all turning. Relationships with such a girl will not make a man happy. She will get a man with her problems and demand conformity to him the ideal of a man. It is tiring and straining. Sex with such girls will be bored and rotten. Perfect beauty will think about how it looks at every moment of time and did her hair disengaged. A nonideal girl can a network in jeans on the steps, tie the hair with headphones, go hiking with a minimum of things and have sex where you want it, and not just in the royal luxury room. Imideless girls can enjoy life, getting pleasure and having fun. It is with such a girlfriend it is easy to become happy.

3. Imideality and success

Perfectionanism ruined many promising people and affairs. The race for ideality does not give us to look at all wider. We are bothering on trifles aroused to perfection, forgetting about other matters. We put our infinite and unattainable goals. It takes all the time and strength we need in other places.

The desire for ideality only ruins us. We are incomprehensible, we cannot achieve our goals and dreams due to the fact that they are mired in unnecessary things.

Be impaired better. You will be happy and more successful.

Ideal people do not exist for the simple reason that all people have different ideals, there is some generally accepted ideal. Therefore, someone will find a flaw in any person. In addition, a person is essentially the same animal as the rest of the living creatures. And if you consider that it is born and developing, we learn from our mistakes, what would be perfect, how many times need to be mistaken ??? In general, because there is nothing perfect)))))))))

A person always strives to the ideal. But what is this ideal? And in the weight behind these, sometimes committed with imaginary ideals, a person does not live, does not enjoy and in essence standing still, because the ideals are distorted ... Yes, all because there is no ideal. " But there is a desire.

If at least someone would be perfect - he would be dead. The statue can be perfect (in relation to proportions), the monument may be idle, mummy ... But all this is non-living. It is dead. And if a person would be perfect, he would be dead. Not for what to go, not to learn ... Just full stagnation, swamp, drown.

Life is a speaker, this is a process. It's like a river!

The ideal is boring, monotonous, dead. "

"" What is the perfect person? This is a person who is good in everything. But are there such people? We all have a habit of saying laquo; ideal people do not existRaquo;. I think everyone knows this phrase. But why? Maybe they still have? We just do not know about it because they never seen them? Answers to these questions are quite simple. Personally, my opinion, like everyone, that such people simply no. We know that all people are different, all their habits, their own character and their beliefs. No in the light of the same people. And that for one is good for another may be bad; That for one beautiful for another may be scary. Therefore, we seem to be that people are not perfect. Because we are not all the same.

"" In general, there is nothing perfect in the world. On the tree there can be no good apples without worms, there is no dog in the world that does not bite, "so there are no people who are good in everything. We all have their own worms, and we know about it, although sometimes we do not recognize it.

"" But every person deeply in the soul dreams to be perfect, dreams of being better than the rest. And to bring themble yourself, at least a little "to the ideal, we all improve in something every day more and more. This is already pleased. But no matter how much we try to be perfect "we do not become, because this does not exist. There is no formula that would define the ideality of a person!

"Maybe there is a person who would like to prove it? Then it will be a new discovery. But, in my opinion, it is difficult to impossible. Why? Yes, because in order for the person to be perfect, he must all please. And we know, "that everyone pleases is also not possible, as being perfect. As we realized that these two things are well interconnected with each other.

"" And what we see on TV that some person "or even in our life has some familiar" ideal life, it only seems to us. It seems to be at work everything is fine and personal life has been successful with her, but I do not. In fact, everything is not so, just some people know how to pretend well. They also have any problems. It is important that we all stop comparing themselves with someone and make their business calmly and good. Let someone and better than you, but somewhere there are a person and you are better than him. After all, you are one person, and familiar or celebrities are completely different people. Without comparing yourself with others, we will be able to be ideal for yourselfHellip; "" "

First of all, let's try to answer the question, and what is the ideal in principle or the perfect person. As we understand this term. He is from ancient Greece and means an image, a view, a sample as a standard, which is perfection, if we talk about Ndash man; That is a perfect person, if about some kind of quality or subject, then the sample is this, it can also be the highest goal, achievement, aspiration for some state. If you think about it, then at all times there was your approach to the definition of the essence, the meaning of this concept. Look at the same pictures of great artists: what forms were considered ideal at different times. Ideal ndash; The category is philosophical, very complex and ambiguous, which philosophers of all time tried to comprehend, it is necessary as a regulator, as a reference point for relationships, behavior, man's aspirations, but it is unattainable, and this is her victory and paradox.
The ideal exists at the level of thought, feelings, reason, it is a kind of image that is transmitted by previous generations of the current one, which is transformed according to today's realities. Perfect ndash; This is a personal concept that is emerging in accordance with education, physiology, environment, education and intelligence, this image builds a person for himself, especially the categories of Laquo; perfect personraquo;, laquo; ideal relationshipRaquo; etc.

If each of us gives the answer to the question: laquo; What is the ideal? Raquo;, and then we compare the answers, I am sure that they will not be the same, every person will invest something in this concept, for someone alone aspects not important for another ndash; Defining, etc. We are all different, we have different stalls, aspirations, ideals. If ideal people existed, if we take the ideal of the images of morality and the church for the ideal, then our world would have become perfect and then the concept of the ideal would be lost at all, paradox.

I think, in our world, the ideal could not exist: fight for life, survive, faced with wearing people who are dishonest, false, slyers, looking for personal benefits and remain perfect, very difficult. And remember the story, very many positive desires ended with such people did not understand, they were afraid, destroyed. Man is weak and powerless. Those who tried to fight evil, also not always chose the "ideal" way, remember Robin Hood and the like, the goal is beautiful, "Aredstreams? .. And was he choosing? ..

each of us need to strive to be cleaner and lighter, try to achieve the ideal, but before you need to determine the standard for everyone, because many have some unnatural goals and standards. And if each of us becomes a little better, then it is possible, after a lot of generations and Homo will appear perfect 🙂

We see the successes and achieve other people, and we begin to seem that we ourselves are not good enough, not very successful or that we have too many flaws. Of course, the desire to do everything perfectly can be a definite incentive for development, but everything is good in moderation: if the self-criticism "rolls" and leads to perfectionism, this indicates a low self-esteem and prevents person to be happy.

The art therapist, a member of the professional psychotherapeutic league and the Association of Artists and Creative Workers Svetlana Zakharov, tells about how to stop him criticize himself.

The tendency to self-criticism and the desire for perfection is one of the main signs of perfectionism. Very often, people make unrealistic requirements that they cannot match, set themselves unattainable goals or struggle to prove to those who surround their ideality, although everyone knows that there are no ideal people. All this leads to dissatisfaction with themselves and hurts on self-esteem.

Some people think that self-criticism and overwhelmed requirements motivate them to develop, but this is not the case: a critical attitude towards yourself or dissatisfaction with their success will not improve, because a person will not be able to improve if it will scold or criticize himself. If you tend to criticize yourself, know that this is a bad habit: it will not help you achieve the ideal, but will be a serious threat to your psychological and emotional well-being. Overcoming perfectionism and stop the following advice to criticize themselves.

In the desire for perfection, perfectionists very often forget about their advantages and strengths of their personality and celebrate only their drawbacks and what they do not know or do not know how. Remember that you do not have to do everything perfect, but you can do a lot, - appreciate it!

Council. Take your drawbacks as a given and stop thinking about them.

Every person has some weaknesses or shortcomings, and they should not be ashamed. Admit your shortcomings and accept them. Remember that some drawbacks can be rid of, if you specifically work on it. However, in any case, disadvantages, whatever they be, should not be a serious reason for self-criticism or for low self-esteem.

You should not overestimate your capabilities and hope that you can somehow achieve unattainable, otherwise disappointment inevitably. Put in front of you real goals and mark your progress on the whole path to achieving these goals - such progress will help increase self-esteem.

Word for yourself that the most important thing for you in life is to understand that the value of you as a person in the eyes of other people is not determined exclusively by your external successes. You can be worthy, caring, talented, hardworking and generous man and not to be a winner or ideal in all respects.

Council. Do not demand from the surrounding respect or high assessment of your advantages.

Your own self-esteem should be high enough regardless of the opinions of others. In this case, your confidence and self-esteem will be sent to other people.

Council. Do not be afraid to make mistakes, do not call your errors in failure and do not criticize yourself for them.

Any error is a lesson for the future. Each person has the right to mistakes, and they should not be a reason for experiences, and the possibility for further growth and personal development. Having made a mistake, analyze the situation, draw conclusions and try in the future not to make such misses.

All people are different: anyone's quality or deed, someone considers good, and someone is bad. The desire to please immediately everyone will never be crowned with success, so you should not take to heart what other people think about or talking about you. Remember that the approval or support of others can only be calculated when your interests match, but tomorrow they may change, and with them the attitude towards you.

Comparison of yourself with other people is very often the main reason for criticism in your own address. In pursuit to be "like everyone else", it is difficult to adequately evaluate your progress and set realistic goals. Move in your own direction, without focusing on other people's achievements, without limiting themselves to others and pursuing only their own interests.

If someone treats you without proper respect, remember that you have a complete right to stop communicating with this person. With too critical attitude towards yourself and low self-esteem, people arise a desire to prove at all costs that they deserve a more respectful relationship. It is not worth spending on it your strength: try not to communicate with such people, and if you avoid communication it does not work, hold on officially, removed and restrained.

Praise yourself for big and little successes, mark your merits and achievements, and if something does not work or it turns out exactly as you planned, do not worry and do not criticize yourself for failure - just admit that you are imperfect, but do everything What's in your power. In this case, you will learn to treat yourself with sympathy and not tormented by self-criticism.

We judge about yourself in our ideals; About others - in their actions.
Garold Nicholson

Idealism increases directly in proportion to the distance to the problem.
John Golsuorussi.

The idealist is a person who allows him to feed himself with beautiful words, let them even be wrapped in the most dirty newspaper paper.
Hot Petan

The reformer for which the world is not good enough, in the end it turns out to be near a person who is not good enough for this world.
George Bernard Show

Ideals serve for blackmail. And thanks to blackmail live.
Karol Izhikovsky

Ideal is a torr.
Paul Valerie

Please do not use this foreign word "ideal." Tell me simply, according to our: "Lie".
Henrik ibsen

Dying only for what to live for something.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Get your wagon to the star.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

The value of personality involves the existence of ultra-personal values.
Nikolay Berdyaev

The idealist: a person who, noticing that the rose smells better cabbage, concludes from here that the soup is tastier.
Henry Luis Menken

Belief in Holy Case often replaces the lost faith in itself.
Eric Hoffer

I have been told: "We need high ideals" the same tone as they say: "We need good finances."
Jean Rostan

Idealists are found even in our world. You can save them in only one way - Zhenya on girls with a sensitive heart and quite large dowry.
George Bernard Show

True, everyone has the same, but every nation has its own special lie, which he refers to his ideals.
Romain Rolland

Ideal is a torr.
Paul Valerie

The preaching of the highest ideals does not serve nothing if he sees a positive way to their achievement.
Henri Barbus

The ideal is nothing more than a climax of logic, just like beauty - nothing else like the top of truth.
Viktor Marie Hugo

No matter who lives without ideal!
Ivan Sergeevich Turgenev

It is absolute, and, therefore, the unattainableness of the ideal and is the best guarantee of the infinity of the movement towards him.
S. Bulgakov

Between the ideal and reality, between the requirement of conscience and mind and life, we have a huge abyss, there is a terrible divorce, and we become sick from this discord.
S. Bulgakov

With those who denied the ideal, it can easily happen that he will take the wonderful.
I. Goette

The reality is always the embodiment of the ideal, and, denying, changing it, we do it because the ideal, embodied by us in it, is no longer satisfied - we created another, the best.
M. Gorky

When nature was deprived of a man of his ability to walk on all fours, she gave him, in the form of a proud, - Ideal! And since then it is unconsciously, instinctively strives for the better - all the above! Do this striving conscious, teach people to understand that only in a conscious desire for the better - true happiness.
M. Gorky

The ideal torments even the coarsest nature. A savage that is tattooed, smears like a red and blue, invested in a nostril fish bone ... looking for something higher lying on what exists.
T. Gautier

Without ideals, that is, without any desires of the best, it can never get any good reality.
F. Dostoevsky

Everyone, great or small, is a poet if he sees the ideal for his actions.
Ibsen

Ideal in you. Obstacles to achieving it - in the same way. Your position is the material from which you must implement this ideal.
T. Karleil

The ideal is to implement his own "I".
D. Mur.

Ideal - movement: grief and happiness can open and close the way
Plekhanov

Choose whose life and speech and even a person in which the soul is reflected, you are pleasant to you; And let him always have before your eyes either as a bodyguard or as an example. We need somebody, according to the sample of which our temper would have been.
Seneca

Take yourself into the sample of the hero of the ancient times, watch it, go after him, lay down, round - glory to you!
A. Suvorov

The ideal is a guide star. Without it there is no direction, but no direction - no life.
L. Tolstoy

The coincidence of the lifestyle with the line of the ideal is happiness ...
L. Tolstoy

Our ideal is not devoid of physicity, an abstract creature, our ideal is a solid, valid, comprehensive, perfect, educated person.
L. Faierbach

Only the consciousness of common tasks and end ideals makes a person resistant and consistent.
S. Frank

Spirit inevitably seeks to swell to ideals.
Cicero

We are enchanting everything that our ideal is manifested, the goal and the subject of our desires and our love.
N. Chernyshevsky

As far as I know people, I am convinced that they are hidden aspirations for the ideal, much superior to all that ever went to the surface. Just as the key beating from under the Earth is only a small part of the invisible flow, idealism, which we observe is just a small tolik of that idealism that people carry in themselves in the associated or barely manifested form. Unleash what is connected, remove groundwater to the surface! Humanity is waiting for those who do this work.
A. Schweizer