Today our life, more than ever, resembles the Autobahn. People rush along it at crazy speed, not noticing anything around. Every day we work, study, raise children and do many, many different things. In this regard, people are increasingly asking the question: “How to allocate time for your hobby, for what you love? "

Familiar situation? I want to please you - there is a way out! Follow the tips below and you will understand.

1. Get up early in the morning

Make the morning hours work for you, try to get up a little earlier than usual. For example, if you usually get up at 8:00 , try to get up in 7:30 ... It may seem to you that this half hour will not play any role. However, during this time, you can have time to read a book, do exercises, clean the apartment or cook food for the whole day. Agree that when you come home after a working day, you don't really want to cook or clean up.

2. Get together in advance

Has it happened to you that you wake up in the morning, are going to work or study and look throughout the apartment where you put your diary, documents, bag, etc.? Tell me the little things? Maybe so, but still 15 you can save minutes of your time. Prepare your bag the night before - place important documents that you intend to take to work. It will be very good if you keep everything in its place. This will not only keep your home clean, but also save you from having to spend half the morning looking for keys to get out of the house. If you take lunch from home to work, then by preparing it in advance, you will save a lot of time and nerves.

Separate advice for girls- in the evening, prepare the clothes in which you are going to go to work or school tomorrow. No offense, but everyone knows that girls spend a lot of time choosing clothes. It is better to do it in advance, and then you can spend the same 20-30 minutes. for shopping.

3. Use your time off productively

How long does it take to get to work or school? If you do not work from home, then you have at least a couple of hours a week when you travel between your home and work place. Use this time to do something useful. If you travel by public transport, you can read a book. If you drive a car, you can listen to audio books. People whose work involves telephone calls can use this time to call clients. If your workplace is near your home, you can walk or cycle. This will be your daily physical activity.

4. Prioritize each case

Prioritize your “global” goals as well as your current ones. This will allow you to fulfill exactly the important component of each case. Based on this, decide what you will be doing this week, tomorrow. Unimportant matters will wait for a more opportune moment.

Remember the Paretto principle (20/80): 80% of the result is achieved in 20% of the time. In other words, one important task completed in a day is much more than a few unimportant or less important ones.

Look into the essence and define the important, the main and act! You will see how success will come, and with it, free time for yourself.

5. Reduce service interruptions

If your colleagues constantly distract you from work with their conversations or the phone rings often, you may find that this takes half a day from you. If you find yourself unable to do something as simple as writing a letter due to constant distractions, retreat to a quiet place and finish your job.

6. Get home on time

If your working day ends at 18.00 , do not stay at work until 20.00 , even if you like this work very much. The sooner you get home, the more time you will have to devote time to friends and family. Even if your boss calls and gives you an overtime assignment that is not your direct responsibility, you can politely refuse him and devote time to your personal needs.

7. Don't do all your household chores alone.

If you do not live on your own, you should not do all the household chores alone, even if you think that no one else can cope with it. Prepare lunch, and instruct your loved ones to wash the dishes and clean the apartment. Firstly, you will not get so tired doing household chores, and secondly, you can spend the saved time on something more pleasant.

8. Use your time right

Let's take an example of the long-awaited weekend, which we are so looking forward to, starting from Monday)

Here came these most cherished weekend. You wake up in the morning, turn on your favorite TV channel or a disc with new episodes of your series, and your whole day is spent in front of the screen. The next one also. And here is Monday. Inside, there is a feeling of dissatisfaction and disappointment from the weekend, which was somehow not very good. Yes, and all the signs of overwork on the face.

An interesting thing: at the screen we get tired even without doing anything. This is a scientifically proven fact. So, maybe you should think about an alternative to a TV and a computer during the rest? After all, you can just go for a walk, meet with friends and go to the nearest park with a book that you have wanted to read for so long?

Think and plan how you will spend your weekend.

9. Learn to plan your time

Proper use of time is simply not possible without planning. Make a plan for the day, for the week, for the month. Take your time to squeeze everything that comes into your head into it. Start small - a few big things to do for the day. Plan realistically, according to your strength, and don't be discouraged when something doesn't go according to plan. Over time, you will learn to plan, taking into account different characteristics and become more prudent. Even a rough plan will make you a more efficient and free person.

In planning diary will become your good friend and helper. So get one. It is possible that its very appearance in your hands will already inspire you for success)

Using these tips, you will stop asking a question how to find extra time for yourself and make your life more free. Wish you luck!

Work, children, husband, household chores ... Any active mother has so many important things to do. Life passes in constant concern for other people, and not everyone dares to allow oneself to lie down and sleep in the middle of the day. But many mothers, among other things, spend energy on milk production, and from the side of others it is taken for granted. Usually we grab a few minutes and spend them on not quite high-quality rest - sitting in social networks or talking on the phone.

It's time to stand up for your personal time and stop feeling guilty about your "idleness." Moreover, no one will definitely benefit from your excessive employment, and everyone can suffer. Making time for yourself is real caring for others and is not selfish at all. How, in the constant "cycle of poop", to manage to take care of yourself and find time for self-development - according to tradition, I was prompted to think about this by a new question from Anastasia, a reader of the "Cozy House" blog:

Good day!

I think many would be interested in an article on how to find time for yourself. How to allocate this time. After all, he is constantly sorry, instead you can do a bunch of other things. How do you, Anna, manage to do everything, including taking care of yourself. This will be especially true for women with children, because as you know, they are often simply not up to themselves because of the child.

How do you develop, what do you read, where do you find out all the useful information that you share. Can share channels, blogs, accounts, groups, books and music that inspire you. After all, inspiration is so important, many people lack it.

Thank you for reading!

How to find time for yourself

First, you need to clearly understand why you need this time (what you will be doing and how long you will need).

Step 1... Take a blank sheet of paper and write down what you would like to devote time to for yourself.

What can be included in this list:

• lunchtime sleep;
• outdoor walks (walking or cycling);
• home SPA procedures;
• something inspiring;
• exercises;
• meditation;
• mastering new skills;
• keeping a diary;
• coloring pages for adults;
• watching sunrise or sunset;
• manicure or pedicure;
• shopping promenade alone;
• engaging in your favorite hobby.

Step 2. Measure with a stopwatch or write approximately how long it takes for each activity.

Step 3. Cross out those points that do not resonate with your inner state, and arrange the rest in order of decreasing priority.

Here are some guidelines for organizing your personal time:

• certain cases can be assigned thematic days for example, relaxing in the bath on Sundays, studying the language on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. If for some reason you cannot find time for yourself for a long time, do at least the top top 2-3 things every day. This could be reading a book and walking for half an hour;
• set aside some morning time before the children wake up to be alone with themselves and their thoughts. A little more in the middle of the day and before bed;
• replenish your strength between work cycles... A small break can be taken after each cycle and a larger break after a series of cycles. The length of the cycle depends on what you are working on. If you are a photographer, one processed photo session can be considered your work cycle. Do you hold master classes? At the end of each, allow yourself to do nothing for at least one day. And after a certain number of completed cycles, take a vacation at all;
• actively include time for yourself in your schedule... If you do not plan this time, then it will be difficult for you to find it in a busy mother's schedule. Bring this issue to the family council and agree with your husband about when it is his turn to sit with the children;
• why not combine some tasks with taking care of yourself. You can listen to an audiobook while you wash the dishes or read while driving to work. Pay attention to these monotonous gaps and you will soon discover many ways to incorporate time into your daily life.

At first, you may feel guilty about wasting time on yourself. But remember that the time you spend relaxing and recharging will return to you in the form of three times the amount of energy. Yes, sometimes, great productivity lies in the ability to have quality rest and recuperate.

5 Keys to Fast Change

So, you have already figured out where to look for time to recharge and work on yourself. Now let's talk about how you can accelerate your development.

The first key to rapid development is to do it for yourself.

The secret is simple - everything that you do in your life, you must do for yourself, and not for the sake of someone else. I really liked how this idea was formulated in her video by the mother of three children and the author of the Dobrozhaka blog, Diana Snigur:

The second key to rapid development is to do what is important and not do what is not important.

We all lead crazy stressful lives. In all this fuss, the item related to taking care of yourself and time for self-development is at the very bottom of the list. We have too many unnecessary responsibilities, too many people demand our attention and help. In order not to burn out, you need to understand what things are for you:

• ask yourself why it is important for you to develop... From my own experience, I found out that self-development has the most direct impact on the quality of my life and the life of my children. This helps to make better decisions, increases the accuracy of my actions in work and those areas in which I am a beginner;
• do not make promises to other people if fulfilling them bothers you;
• - put your phone in airplane mode or set up an answering machine, remove any obstacles that prevent you from doing what is important to you.

The third key to rapid development is to de-clutter your brain.

1. Collect different ideas and revisit them periodically, but do it not in your head. Better on paper or in electronic notes (Evernote, Google Keep, Trello).

2. Use mind maps when planning a project.

3. Usually, what I write about arises at the intersection of knowledge that I already have in my head, and not necessarily this knowledge, is associated with home economics. For example, now I am reading a book on business project management and constantly think about how I can adapt the knowledge gained for my readers. As a result, the thoughts of the author, combined with my personal experience, give rise to great ideas about how

Want an interesting video on how good ideas are born?

The fourth key to rapid development is the state of flow

Nowadays I hardly use the word "inspiration", over time it was replaced by the phrase "state of flow". So this state almost always appears already in the process of doing something... When you are passionate about what you are doing, you are so overwhelmed by the process that you simply stop feeling the time. If you only do what you like for several years, the state of flow will begin to follow you everywhere.

Fifth Key to Growth Fast - Inspirational Reading

But if you just force yourself to read these books, they will not help you much. When looking through books on a bookshelf or in an electronic library, you need to listen to yourself and take a book only when you feel that this is exactly the information that you need at the current moment in time and exactly the knowledge that you are missing right now.

A funny story happened to me with the biography of Elon Musk. A few months ago, I didn't even know who this guy was and what he was doing, but too often his name was heard. And in general, the superficial impression of him as a person was terrible. (Yes, what did he even think about himself ?! Some kind of crazy!) I continued to ignore information about him until one day, or rather night, I dreamed of him. (Apparently, he had already found a way to travel in people's dreams))) In a dream, he shared with me his ideas, charged with incredible energy. After waking up, I ran to Google, after a few articles and excerpts from the book, I realized that I wanted to know everything about this guy. And especially the secret of that very energy, which is so unlike any other.

Self-development is a process that has no end

And this is something that is important to remember constantly. In the book I mentioned in the paragraph on brain clutter, the author wrote the following words:

Near one city, which I cannot name, in a company whose name I am obliged to keep a secret, a group of people gathers every day and thinks about the problem of how to send people into space.

If I had not read Musk's biography, I would hardly have guessed which company we are talking about. Imagine how much we still do not know and do not understand. “I only know that I know nothing,” Socrates said. And the more you learn new information, the more you become convinced of this.

The author of programs and techniques to simplify home life, a great lover of making lists, I consider organizing life in all its manifestations as my hobby, from the surrounding space to personal time. Founder of the Cozy Home resource, I combine creative and technical work on the site with raising two children and creating online courses.

Be punctual, then you won't waste time ** Positive psychology of relationships

Lack of time is a common cause of unsatisfactory results. If only a couple of hours and the project was closed on the 31st without delay, a couple of minutes more and would come on time to the meeting, a couple more seconds and the prize-winning place would be secured.

Less obvious consequences of missed deadlines include, and they are followed by constant irritability and discontent.

Once again, there is a need to choose a reputation for yourself: approximate or not very good. And in the end, looking back at the distance traveled in life, a person concludes "babble ... vanity and chasing the wind."

In this case, of course, we can talk about self-sacrifice, they say, family, children, grandchildren, but only selfish and incapacitated dependents live for themselves.

Of course, there is some truth in this, and yet with such extreme views, it will be difficult to get closer to their own noble goals. If we have set ourselves worthwhile goals and they are actually our own and really noble, then the question how to find the time for yourself it is worth considering right now.

For yourself - is it that bad?

We usually avoid talking openly about our preferences, for fear of appearing to be thinking “more of ourselves than it is necessary to think”. Nevertheless, to be honest with ourselves, we declare ourselves every day and sometimes even demand what is rightfully ours.

Let us recall at least how our everyday day begins. With coffee? Nope. From the bathroom? Not necessary either.

Our day begins from the moment we open our eyes. And at about the same time, various "systems" of the body are launched, providing a wakeful state. Within about an hour, he puts himself in order, of course, with our conscious assistance.

At that time, the body is not up to external relations, it is focused on itself.

In addition to the usual morning procedures, we decorate ourselves not only with attractive clothes, but also with various accessories bought especially for ourselves.

I know a seventeen-year-old boy who already wears size 42 shoes. And in the future, as he said, he will be ready to buy good shoes on special order. Do you think he is too ambitious and leads an extremist group of egotists?

Have you heard, dear friends, that bears in times of famine are somewhat unusual in choosing priorities? For example, a bear finding something edible will restore her own strength, and then continue to search for food for her children.

Otherwise, when she dies, the bear will not take care of her children in any way. Doesn't nature itself teach us that not all self-care is called selfishness?

If you are wise, you are wise for your own sake, but if you are proud and mock people, then no one but you is to blame for your troubles ** King Solomon (SoP)

The acquisition of wisdom for oneself is very much encouraged. In general, I have never heard of collective wisdom, maybe you know something about it? By the way, the ability to use your time wisely is also considered a sign of wisdom.

How do I find the time? Wouldn't it be wiser to redeem it?

He who gains a rational heart loves his soul. He who keeps discernment will find good ** King Solomon

Generally the question how to find the time sounds somewhat incorrect. People cannot live outside of time, so there is no need to look for it. It always accompanies us, even when we have not yet started our next day, i.e. did not open their eyes.

And if you think about it, then from the moment of awakening everyone receives 24 hours as a gift. You can count down from the moment you go to bed: "As many as 8 hours of night relaxation, and then another 16. N-th beauty."

But, of course, we cannot advance these hours or, more simply, save. That is why the question how to find the time you need to start with an awareness of its value.

And you need to remember this value not when “everything is lost, chief”, but when you want to watch a 2-hour blockbuster on a weekday evening or, succumbing to emotions, kill half the night to sort things out.

In general, again, whatever one may say, we return to the topic of personal.

Tell me where you are spending your time and money and I will tell you where you will be in a year **

Any successful person will say that for many of them he is put even above money.

It's time to learn how to manage your time, buying it from less significant activities. And in order for these classes to know their place, in your personal routine you need to use only two short words "yes" or "no".

If you correctly, at the right moment, pronounce one of them and not replace one with another in a few minutes, even too serious questions will be resolved many times faster, which will save a lot of time.

Then the question is, how to find the time by itself, as they say, will disappear.

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Time flies by quickly and imperceptibly. We strive to be in time for everything and everywhere, especially for women. We run to the kitchen to prepare food, start painting and tidying ourselves up there, then we pack the child to school, feed my husband, sort out important documents, and then rush to work, and so on every day.

At the end of the day, fatigue and self-resentment sets in. The day has passed, and you still could not find time for yourself? Then you just need to read this article to the end.

As ridiculous as it sounds, try to plan your day. Write on a separate piece of paper the things you need to do today. All cases should be ranked in order of importance and urgency. Start doing the things you don't like doing in the first place. At the end of the day, do something you like.

Train yourself to be in order.

Women often spend a lot of time cleaning the apartment. Try to do it differently: do not litter, put all objects in their places, teach your children and husband to this. In the morning, a woman who is in a hurry to work usually cannot find the necessary things the first time. It all starts with grumbling, moving quickly from one room to another, and then the mood spoils for the whole day.

Do what you love

Many women have been accustomed to being in the kitchen. Their responsibility also includes washing clothes, cooking, doing homework with the child. Most men think so, but remember that a woman also works for all this, and, by the way, no less than men. Do what you enjoy doing. For example, knitting, reading books, watching a TV series. Take time for yourself, let it be in the evening or closer to night, but this time is simply necessary for you.

Distribute responsibilities correctly

Discuss this issue with your spouse, if the girl is not married yet, she should talk to her parents. Try to properly share responsibilities in the family. If this is a husband, then he can also do homework with the child, if the parents, they can also help in cleaning the rooms.

Do not think back to work at home

If possible, do not touch work when you are at home, do not go through documents, worrying about what may or may not happen at work. It is also highly recommended to return from work on time, do not linger there for all sorts of trifles.

Have a "private evening"

Set aside one day a week for yourself to simply rest. Let it be in the evening after work, but during this time you should not worry about food, child's lessons or unwashed dishes. This "personal evening" should be your day exclusively.

Finding time for yourself is extremely important. Thus, you will be able to renew your strength, you will not be so tired at work. In addition, free time will make you feel like a full-fledged person who has not yet forgotten how to enjoy life. Use all of the above recommendations for yourself to find the "wasted" time.

Big and ardent hello to everyone! In order for the life of each of us to be full, harmonious and happy, we must not forget about everyone. This is family, work and self-development. But when a woman becomes a mother, then all her thoughts are directed to the baby, and her actions are aimed at ensuring comfort in the house. It is not always possible for a young mother to be beautiful. Unfortunately, 90 percent of women who are lucky enough to have a baby live this way. Of course, everything is changing, soon she will go to work, the baby will go to kindergarten. The rhythm of life will more or less get better and will become the same: work - home - work. The only thing that is added is matters related to the care of family members.

All this is good and adds dignity to a woman. The weaker sex has always been strong and confident, but sometimes forgetting about itself. During my short life, I met many young mothers, but 9 out of 10 completely forgot about their beloved and threw themselves headlong into the maelstrom of motherhood and marriage. Children and husband got everything and everyone, but, unfortunately, mother herself was not in the best position.

I know from myself how difficult it is to collect your thoughts and find time for yourself, to take care of yourself on a regular basis, and to be able to develop, devote time to your favorite activities. And today I would like to talk about this, or rather, how to find time for yourself and not become a victim of a lack of strength and opportunities.

I must say right away that anything is possible. It's easy enough to change your lifestyle and daily routine to get the most out of every day. In total, you need to put into practice a few tips on everything, which I will discuss below. In fact, they are not much different from time management, which we are used to applying only to the working moments of life. All these laws and principles in their different interpretations can be introduced into each of the areas of life, for its improvement. Many of them will require real action and the ability to work on yourself, but they will work when you actually put them into practice. Just reading an article will make little difference in your life. So, let's begin.

Make a decision

You are a mother, you have a household on your shoulders, a baby and a husband, who, in turn, is not much different from a baby. You have chores around the house - cleaning, washing, cooking. In fact, you have no one to help, you are not a happy owner of nannies and other kind of helpers. You rely only on your strength and spin like a squirrel in a wheel, whatever.

Make the decision to end up self-destructive, start loving yourself, and think of yourself as your child, husband, and family. If the mother is happy, contented and cheerful, is able to give part of herself to herself, then the family will live in harmony. No wonder they say the husband is the neck, and the woman is the head. I completely agree with this expression. And the atmosphere and furnishings mostly depend on the wife. The question is how to find time for yourself and how you are going to spend it.

What do you need time for?

Think well how you decided to spend the time that you deservedly set aside for yourself, organizing your rhythm of life and all your affairs.

This could be:

• personal care,
• playing sports,
• self-development,
• rest and sleep.

But to find so much time for all this, it takes many hours. For example, I did so in this case.

Personal care I included in my routine list. For 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening, nothing will happen to anyone. This is your legal time when you can put yourself in order and do the most necessary procedures. You are not some kind of captive and prisoner, you are the mistress of the house and a mother who must be well-groomed, at least to a minimum, for example, without bright makeup and provocative outfit. You can also compose, which will greatly help you to keep yourself in order and not to forget about yourself.

Sports activities. I devote half an hour a day every other day to physical activity, for example,. A total of 2-2.5 hours per week. What is this a lot?

Self-development. In this concept, I include reading books, taking courses, working on the Internet for at least half an hour a day.

Sleep and rest. It is difficult to organize your sleep with an infant, but it is possible if you think not only about him, but also about yourself. Things will wait, the main thing is that you are happy and not exhausted. When children grow up and enter into a more or less constant daily routine, then sleep will become healthier. As for rest, I mean in this concept periodical intervals of time between activities or activities, hobbies and watching films. Everyone can have their own rest in addition to sleep.

So you've made the decision to get your life back on track and find time for yourself. You know what you will spend it on and how you will spend every minute. It's time to get started.

Prioritize

The mistake of all mothers is the desire to be in time for everything. IT'S IMPOSSIBLE. There are things that you simply cannot physically do on time. Learn to put it right. Take a piece of paper and divide it into 3 pieces. In the first column, write down all the things that must be done every day, for example, caring for the baby, cooking and cleaning the kitchen (washing dishes, wiping tables, and so on). Describe everything in detail, but do not focus on what can wait, for example, the same parsing of shelves in a wardrobe or cleaning floors throughout the apartment. It may be worth reducing the daily routine to mopping the floors in the hallway, but not as a daily general cleaning. Do not forget to include in this list the time for personal care and other activities that I wrote about above.

Set the second column for minor tasks at the moment, for example, no one will mind if you come up with the curtains a little later or bake a cake tomorrow, because the main dishes are ready and the refrigerator is full of food. The only exception is your burning desire to bake it.

The third column is intended for cases that can wait for their turn for a long time, but sooner or later they will have to be completed.

As a result, you will set priorities and will be able to devote time to the most important things every day, including yourself. Ideally, write your daily routine, allocating each hour to the necessary activities. This way, you will have an idea of ​​your own daily routine, and the time eaters will end up poisoning your life. You don't have to stick to a minute by minute schedule, but try to stick to it as closely as possible.

Delegate household chores to other family members

One of my favorite time management tools, without which it is impossible to find time for yourself. Thanks to him, you can do nothing at all. Kidding!)). But there is some truth in this joke too. Here you have written a list of daily must-dos, optional and not at all must. Entrust some of them to your husband or older children, grandparents, aunts and uncles, in general, everyone who can. Do not think that this is a selfish decision, you take care of yourself first of all, do not forget.

Talk to loved ones and explain the situation. It will be great if they make commitments on an ongoing basis. For example, your husband will buy groceries every week, all you need to do is a list, or throw out the trash or vacuum or feed your baby on weekends in the mornings. In general, it all depends on the situation.

The same goes for grandma. Let her come, for example once a week, to babysit her grandchild so you can make time for yourself. The more permanent your agreement, the better. Do not hesitate to ask for help, in any case, the person has a choice whether to help you or not.

Household organization

This step is very important in the life of a mom and a hostess. It takes a lot of time to keep the house clean and tidy, and if you still have a baby, then the load almost doubles. The Fly Lady system will help you with this. I have written many articles on this topic, so study for health. Well, if you do not want to waste time, then I suggest going through ten days. There I painted everything in detail. Each day will consist of a theoretical and practical part. After completing it and completing your homework, you will create your own cleaning schedule and get lost about the trash, dirt and mess.

Love yourself

How easy it is to say "love yourself" when there are so many things to do, so much trouble and all of this you need to do. Indeed, you are right, but without it, nowhere. You must understand that all the problems are in your head. If you deliberately give up and begin to feel sorry for yourself, cry, and then the situation will not change. People around you will treat you with the same disdain as you. And not because they are all bad, but because you yourself allow yourself to be controlled.

Pull yourself together, give up the position of the victim. Make a decision to irrevocably change your life, make it brighter and more enjoyable. Make a plan of action and start to implement it step by step. We all just need to learn to love and respect ourselves, just as you respect your husband and children. Yes, they depend on us, women, on our ability to cope with a lot of things, but you are not a mistake either. Caring for relatives is, first of all, c. Who else besides you will love them so much?

There are many reasons to close in yourself, go headlong into troubles and completely forget about yourself:

• heavy burden of motherhood,
• and unwillingness to change something in life.

But you have to pull yourself together and go to a different level of thinking -. And then everything will be fine with you, and you can easily find time for yourself and the embodiment of all your desires.

Recently, very often I have been motivating myself with only one and the most important, in my opinion, thought “We live once”. I wish you constantly have the motivation for self-improvement and overcoming.

Good luck to you! Until next time!